if your dh/dp's family ring to speak to them and you answer the phone, do they speak to you?

[wannaBe]

If mil rings to speak to dh and i answer the phone we always have quite a long chat. However, SIL has just called to dh and I answered the phone and the conversation went like this:

sil: "oh hello it's xxx"

me: "oh hiya how's you?"

sil: "am ok, is xx (dh) there?".

Ibu in being slightly put out that considering I have been with her brother for 13 years, and married for 9, "hello" is as much as she can bring herself to say to me?

My in laws rarely ring (dh rarely rings them either) and I probably hand the phone over fairly fast. Not noticed it much really! With my own family I will chat happily to my eldest sister's partner (in fact he rang me the other day) also with my brother's ex-partner (although currently he only uses his mobile so not the same really) but I am afraid I really don't like my sister's husband much so I am afraid I do do the "hi x, can I speak to sis" when I ring her. He is just so boring I find sustaining a conversation difficult. Not suggesting wannaBe is boring of course

My DH is such a non-phone-person, that noone from his (nice but rather odd!) family ever wants to speak to him. Sometimes I'll ask mil if she wants a word (at which he scowls at me and shakes his head), and she's never over-keen- usually cos she ends up off the phone 2 minutes later! In fact, if Dh answers the phone to his mum, it goes like this :
"Hello? Oh, alright mum. How are you? Yup. YUp. Here's Jooly.." (hands phone over!) I also keep in touch with his gran (who sometimes doesn't remember my name) and his sister. He phones no-one, and would rather extract his own wisdom teeth than make small talk with my relatives!

I think i speak to my in laws more than my DP. Especially his Mum.

bils and sils i speak to as much as dh and i email but dh doesnt.before mil died dh said i spoke to her more than he did and i saw more of her than any of her 6 children and however many granchildren.
dh makes small talk with my family but soon gets to the 'i'll pass you over' bit!

If my dh's dad rings and I pick up we will have a little chat first, then I'll pass the phone over.

My dp's family are the opposite if he answers the phone they ask to speak to me.

MIL doesn't even normally talk to DH when she calls, just talks at to me. My SILs don't normally call the house -- they know that if they want to get hold of DH they are better off calling his mobile.

I have realised that if I call my sister and her DH answers I normally just run through "Hi, X, it's PAL here, how are you? [...] is Y there?". I don't think he minds, although he may mind that we yak for an hour after that.

I think my in laws would do almost anything to not have to speak to me (they call him on the mobile or office phone).... only in desperation do they call the home line, and then they sound completely panicked if I answer the phone and attempt to have a conversation with them. I don't take it personally, they are just a bit wierd....

I chat briefly, but hate phones, so if his family ring I usually pass the phone on to him fairly quickly, they have commented that I seemed a bit abrupt but otherwise they end up having identical conversations with the 2 of us that seems pointless. Husband not keen when my family ring and chat to him for ages when they want to talk to me, he doesn't like phones either.