I’m not quite sure what advice I’m after but I just need to get this out there as I’m so desperately sad about what has happened this week!
For background info me & hubby have been together for 20 years and have 2 lovely children who are 16 and 19. He’s always worked full time & I went part time when we had the children! He was in the military so I was often left to look after the kids, house, dogs etc. We’ve always had a really good solid trusting relationship! 2 years ago we made the decision as a family for him to work abroad in order to earn as much money as possible, pay off the mortgage and then do some travelling & have a good retirement as both children will be at uni or working by then!
Last week he went into hospital in the country where he now works with heart problems! He’s had a couple of procedures for this issue and has been quite low and tired! Suddenly this week he’s said he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me! Says he still loves me & cares about me but isn’t sure we’re on the same path anymore!
I’m absolutely devastated!! There we were sorting out our finances and looking forwards to a nice retirement together and suddenly I’ve had the rug pulled out from under me! I’ll be 60 in a few years and never thought I’d be in this situation!
Im panicking because for the last 10 years I’ve worked part time in a basic job that I enjoy but I know those wages won’t be enough to support me! As the kids are older I guess he really has no obligation to support them! He says I can stay in the house but obviously that’s going to change as he won’t want to keep supporting me if we get divorced!
I just feel lost and the thought of moving on and trying to start again makes me sob!
if anyone’s been through this can you offer me any support or advice! I’d be so appreciative to hear from other people that there is life after divorce!! 😢