was a single parent for years in my own home happy with my kids. dated as was lonely after years, met a wonderful man and after a few short months i discovered i was pregnant, we remained living separately and i continued working and claiming uc and i didnt want to disturb my older childrens by moving in together so soon.
during the pregnancy and after i gave birth he never supported me financially. after i had our baby, we thought it was the right thing to do by getting married and moving all in together shortly after. i suffered from post natal depression and left the new rental home agreement and bills all to him. i gave notice of my own tenancy and 3 days before the move i discovered txt messages on his phone revealing he had got his rental agreement rejected due to his bad credit score. i then find out he had been sacked from his job, is a gambling addict and is in massive amount of debt. i felt like i had been punched. i ended the relationship and begged my parents to take me and my children in as we had no other choice.
i dont even know this man.
i informed uc that i had moved out of my old property and into my parents as still a single parent. i have been a mess. my childrens lives turned upside down and the guilt i feel for being so stupid is unreal.
my problem is i need to also update my name as legally im still married. he has my marriage certificate and wont give me it so i dont know what to do about proof of name change? and im worried they will not believe that we are separated as we only recently got married. any suggestions would be greatly appreciated ❤️