Newish relationship , mid fifties, am I being unfair in my expectations?
we’re getting in brilliantly, mad about each other. He would talk to the wall.. always meeting people when we’re out and about, extremely friendly, chatty and a genuinely lovely lovely man. He seems to know people everywhere we go.
we are together six months. He’s very consistent , eager etc. going so well.
so we were out at the weekend and he went over to another table at an outdoor bar to get me a lighter. Ten mins later, he’s still chatting away to a woman he’d never met before. I was sat at another table nearby with two friends .
I thought this was odd tbh. He broke up with his last partner after a year of her being v flirtatious and leaving him alone for an hour at a time in some cases, when out socially so I thought this was double standards .
I joined him eventually and he immediately out his arm around me and introduced me to the lady he was speaking to. When asked casually what they were chatting about, he said his ex wife and his divorce!!
I thought to myself..’ FFS! He’s here with his new gf and he’s talking about the tragedy of his ex wife’s illness and subsequent divorce ..’
We chatted and I said that I found his behaviour odd esp in view of his issues with a past partner. I then asked if he feels comfortable with me doing what he did. He said he did! He apologised profusely, felt awful for hurting me although he looked completely confused when I broached the subject initially … and that’s was that.
Is this a him thing or a me thing do you think??
we’re new couple and have years of baggage and trauma with infidelity playing a big part in my marriage .
Thanks