Really need some support - What are the chances of a domestic abuse prosecution succeeding?

[AlertLurker]

Hi all. I received some wonderful support on here a month ago when I was making the brutal decision to keep my pregnancy or terminate it at 15 weeks. I had to make the decision to terminate to keep me and my existing daughter safe.
I have since spent weeks dealing with the police and making reports about the abuse I suffered. I am utterly broken and more scared about my mental health than I ever have been.

The police have been brilliant. I was surprised as I'd not heard good things about the response to DA. CID interviewed me and they're going to arrest him and then try to hold him on remand.

For background, he has 7 convictions for 15 offences, twice been in prison for DA including strangulation. The abuse he put me through was only ever physical once - he pinned me when I was three months pregnant. He would stop me sleeping, left me to sleep on the floor, call me and my daughter awful names, throw me out at 5am, force me to beg him for sex, the list goes on. But there is very little evidence except for me recalling abuse and him admitting it (in text messages), and my medical notes which show serious mental distress as a result.

Can anyone give me any reassurance that there is a chance this will be prosecuted. I have to give a second statement on the 9th and then they will arrest him.

I think that given his history, there's a realistic chance of conviction. It sounds like you got out before it got worse in a physical sense but the effects of mental/emotional abuse are just as bad if not worse so I hope you're getting some help. Have the police or GP referred you for therapy?

I remember your other post. You’ve been exceptionally brave OP, especially with everything you’ve been through. I’m assuming they’ll charge him with a controlling a coercive behaviour offence and potentially others, given that he did assault you. I’d say given his history he has a very strong chance that they’ll charge him and proceed to prosecution.
stay strong OP, you’ve been through such a challenging time recently but you should be really proud of yourself in getting through this

Not therapy specifically but my IDVA has been fantastic, as has my doctor. I feel like I got lucky with the support services

Not therapy specifically but my IDVA has been fantastic, as has my doctor. I feel like I got lucky with the support services

Gosh it sounds dreadful. I sat on the jury for a case of marital rape and coercive control. Also sexual abuse of a child under 13. Cpa brought charges as wife/mother was too afraid. There was no physical evidence just each person's testimony. He got 14 years for the rapes and 7 for CSA to run consecutive so 21 yeArs. I've also been a victim but I didn't report , you are very brave.

Thank you, so much. It has been the most brutal three weeks - I can't believe its been that long. I think they're looking at coercive control, false imprisonment and possibly a sexual offence too. He admits to a lot of it text, which I'm really hoping carries some weight. One day at a time x

That’s good that you have an IDVA. I can’t remember if you mentioned in last post but will you consider a non molestation order? The Prosecution can seek a restraining order if he’s successfully convicted but I’d think a non mol would be quicker

It should do OP, absolutely and the fact that you’re providing statements as well so effectively support the prosecution which is so hard for victims of DA. I’m really pleased you’ve reported him- sounds like an animal. Keep on keeping on and hopefully you’re getting good support IRL too xxx

They did offer me one but I was in a bit of a spin, I need to get back on the case :) I'm hoping that because they've mentioned remand, I wont need either soon, fingers crossed

That is so reassuring to know, thank you. That also sounds like a really traumatic case to sit through, well done. And thank you, I don't feel particularly brave, I think I was lucky to have the energy to report him in the first week, before the shock had warn off

Has the case gone to the CPS? You need to know if the evidence is sufficiently robust to get a prosecution? The police must have some idea!

It hasn't yet, he wont be arrested until after the 9th. I assume that's when CPS make a decision to release, remand or NFA?

How are you holding up @AlertLurker? Is it this week the police are planning on arresting?