When did you say “I love you”

[WendyWednesday21]

When did you say I love you to partner.
Im 6 months in and feel like I love him. I’m sure when we were in bed a few nights ago he mumbled it but not 100% sure. I don’t know when/how or even if I should say it this early on.

I would most certainly say it before calling him my partner, how can he be your partner if neither of you have said it?

We both said it after about three weeks.

What else would you call it?

3 months I said it.
I've not heard it back yet from him.at 9 months..I've had "you're lovely" during sex. Not sure if and when I'll get the actual words from him. I think he's very slightly neuro diverse.
I feel loved all the time though via care and consistency

I think if he shows it that enough. Does it bother you he has not said it back yet, I think that’s why I’m hesitant to say it because if I didn’t hear it back it might bother me

Yes it does bother me TBH.
But he's steady, loving and consistent in other ways, and I've met all his family. We've been away on lots of holidays, and he makes time for us.
My addicted narcissist ex said i" I love you" after 2 weeks and this relationship crashed at 2 months.
My ex H said it at 3 weeks and we were together 14 years and married for 12 years
Who knows what's normal or indicates actual intentions? I'm inclined to look at actions rather than words now.

It's easy to say the words. It's much much harder to show someone you love them by your deeds and treatment of the person.

My physically abusive ex used to say he loved me all the time, yet his behaviour showed me he did not.

I remember reading about the widow of someone famous who had had a marriage lasting over 50 years. This man( can't remember who it was) had never told her that he loved her, but she knew he did because he had cherished her and treated her wonderfully throughout their lives together. That takes real true love, yet anyone can say 3 words.

I said it at 6 months in, he said it 11 months in

My partner said it after 3 weeks … I said it after 2 months. We’ve been together 6 years and we do say I love you before bed or by text if we are apart.

DH probably said it to my two youngest daughters (who were, even though I say it myself, adorable children) before he said it to me. But I'm sure it was before we got together, because we were friends first and he's always telling people that he loves them. And I expect I reciprocated straight away.

My DH asked me to marry him after six weeks! Had we said the ‘L’ word by then? I can’t remember. It wasn’t a big thing we were watching tv and talking about something and he said ‘but you will marry me won’t you’? He caught me off guard as I wasn’t ‘there’ yet. Anyway we married a year later .
Some people feel it and say it early on, some people are together for years. Interestingly I haven’t found a correlation between when it’s said (or even if) and longevity of relationship.

I think love isn’t something you say, it’s something you do.
My partner tells me he loves me all the time but he’s also looked after me after operations, sickness and will do lots of things to make my life easier. He will check my tyres, oil ect and sort out anything to do with my car, he also mows the lawn and has planted beautiful flowers and plants in the garden. We don’t live together so it makes he’s acts of service even more meaningful. I all l do get affection and all that comes with being in a healthy relationship.

Three months in. He said it first and I said it back. I’ve never seen anyone look so happy when I reciprocated. I already knew I loved him and was wondering when to mention it…..!

We’ve been married for 34 years and he shows me (and tells me) he loves me every day.

I said it to DP about 4 months in. We were in a pub and I'd just found out that she'd done me an absolutely massive favour that was a pain in the arse of her, completely unprompted. I thought to myself "Bloody hell, she must really love me" so told her Ioved her. She nearly bolted for the door, said it was far too soon.

She didn't say it back to me for a good six months or so. DD had started crying (yes, we did things in rather the wrong order!), while I was downstairs and DP was trying to sleep, so I came up, settled DD and put her back down. As I went to leave the room DP said "I love you" and it didn't even really register to me that it was the first time she'd said it, so I just kissed her on the fortnight and said "I know". She was slightly miffed at the low key reaction! But it was true, it had never bothered me that she hadn't said it, because I'd known for months that she loved me, even if she couldn't say it she'd shown me in all kinds of ways

He said it first after about 6 weeks and I reciprocated. Having said that I’m believer that actions speak louder than words.

I said it after 2 weeks yes crazy i know, he didn’t say it till much later cant remember exactly

After about two weeks. They said it first.

I didn’t believe in soulmates until I met them. Saying it was the easiest thing in the world.