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TikkaJam · 25/06/2026 09:36

Need advice. Am chronically ill, multiple conditions, predominantly housebound. I get a lot of help from my dear mum who is 70. I have two boys 4 and 6, youngest starts school in September. Marriage has been under huge strain since my capacity reduced significantly due to sickness which is chronic and long term (ME CFS, POTS, chronic migraine, hEDS). Husbands family lives up north and we don’t really see them. My husband gets up with them 4 mornings a week and does bed time twice a week, he works full time hybrid. I work 3 days flexible and from
home but I’m barely hanging on to my job given sickness. Husband has treated me terribly and blames it all on stress. He has become like a huge dark cloud that enters the room because of all of this. I can’t cope with the marriage anymore, my nervous system can’t take it and living with my mum is not an option, given my limited capacity, how would I even begin to go about separating. No clue where to start and feeling very overwhelmed

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AnonAnonmystery · 25/06/2026 13:23

I have no specific advice but I did not want to read and run. Do the ME society have a helpline so they can help sign post you to local services and organisations.
How old are you @TikkaJam and I am taking it the chronic sickness is 3years + as you have young dc? I am sorry you are in this situation.
Maybe you can ask mumsnet to add more detail to your title about your situation and you may get people more knowledgeable that can give you some advice. I am sorry you are in this situation xx

OMGDidYouSayThat · 25/06/2026 14:06

This one sounds a bit too complicated to be able to add anything useful, what's unclear though is if your husband has acknowledged your medical conditions, i understand stress can be difficult to deal with but i would have thought there would have been a bit more understanding of what you're going through from his side.

Asiana · 25/06/2026 14:12

Hi, it sounds really tough. Have you had treatment for your conditions? Perhaps the health professionals can refer you further to someone who can support you and ideally also your husband in this? I am sorry I don't have more concrete advice right now.

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