Partner dismissing my postnatal depression and pain while I struggle

[TheKhakiBeaker]

I have no one else to speak to and I feel like I am completely drowning

i have 4 children ages 8,3,2,0.
I broke my spine nearly 3 months ago now when I was 6 weeks pp which has been very hard but I tried to manage and push through.. I then got diagnosed with postnatal depression

My partner works 12 hours a day, I try to confine in him about how hard it is and I really am at a breaking point.. I’m scared one day I will just walk away and never come back

He told me I need to get a grip and grow up.

i ask if he can reduce his hours just by an hour just so tea time and bed time is not as hard as by that point my back starts to spasm and I am in agony.

he tells me no it’s not possible.

i really am struggling and I don’t know what to do anymore

Walk away and never come back.
Has he always been like this?

Kids aged 8,3,2,0, a damaged spine and PPD?

I mean, that's a five alarm fire.

He might not be able to reduce his hours, but you can't be expected to do that on your own.

I'm so sorry OP it sounds like you're going through a horribly difficult time and your DH should definitely be more sympathetic and caring. I understand that it might be difficult for him to reduce his work hours, especially as he has a family of six to support. But you can't carry on like this with your back injury and post natal depression. Are you on any treatment? Can you speak to your Health Visitor about accessing some support - home start or maybe hiring an older teenager to come in weekdays and help with bath & bedtime? Do you have any family support?