Feel quite isolated and hurt

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Always had friends at school college and work.
V long term marriage not always great and I've posted loads on here.
So fast forward to now and dcs left home my social anxiety has lessened.
Dh is disconnected so I've spent ages at work.
Recently I've had two female dominated jobs.
One the staff decided they didn't like me so ostracized me the whole 18 months
So I wondered if it was me.I got assessment for ADHD with autistic traits.Yes I have it.
My new place was lovely.A breath of fresh air so I decided my last place was bad luck.
Yet again a higher up person took a dislike to me and has set about gossiping and while it's not as bad I can see side glances, spiteful comments and bits where I genuinely don't know what I've said or done.
I've got a feeling being misunderstood is my new norm.
Previously I thought I was like anyone else and I just didn't like social events.Im 60.

I'd make an appt. to speak to the higher up and make it as a talk about your position. Tell them what you like about the job and ask if there is something he/she wants you to do differently or has any suggestions. Perhaps you'll get some answers handling it that way.

Being on the spectrum doesn’t give people the right to treat you differently, there are lots of rules in the workplace today to protect you from this behaviour, have an informal chat with your HR manager if you have one and get some advice, oh, and never apologise for being neurodivergent. Good luck 😉

I spoke to my manager.We agreed to quiet spells during work which apply to everyone.
I will struggle a bit but I don't mind if it helps relationships with colleagues.
I think it's a two way street and I'm a very chatty person who talks and works.Others get distracted or stop work to talk.

Omg thank you.Im trying not to shrink myself while being considerate of others.

I have ADHD and chat a lot too OP. Have you tried meditation daily? I find I’m more centred of I’ve meditated. I use an app called Insight Timer.

The other thing that might help is the C25K app

And I’m absolutely not saying this is your fault. These two things have helped me enormously though

No I will look into it.What is C25k

Oh I see.I walk 4 miles to work already so around 30 miles a week plus in steps as my job is fast paced.

Explodingsmittens does it cause issues for you having ADHD?

Of course it does, you don’t get a diagnosis unless you can prove that it has affected you throughout your life

Sorry I should have said in what way does it affect your relationships.