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Couples therapy

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sharkstale · 23/06/2026 18:23

I'll start by saying that there's not been any cheating involved (I personally wouldn't attempt therapy or want to rebuild from that), just a lot of arguments that drag up things from the past and some nasty things said. After having a baby, he left the lions share of the work to me, and I started to resent him. I began to distance myself emotionally before ending the relationship. We've been co-parenting for the past few months and he's been having his own therapy which is helping him, and I'm now potentially willing to give things another try if (and only if) we don't fall into the same pattern we were in of repeating the same arguments and if I can let go of the resent I'd built up from it all. So I've suggested family/couples therapy. Have those you have tried it found it helped? Thank you

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LovingLivingLife · 23/06/2026 18:27

I haven't done couples therapy but wanted to give your post a little bump.

I have however had person therapy and found it hugely beneficial to my life. With a good therapist you learn tools that you are able to implement over and over again years later in various circumstances. I would say it's unlikely to be wasted money even if it doesn't work out with your current partner as long as you go in with a mindset of learning new tools and ways of communicating.

Wishing you all the best!

Laushe · 23/06/2026 22:31

Agree with previous poster. I've tried cbt which wasn't for me but interpersonal therapy was beneficial. It did take about 5 sessions for it to feel comfortable and to let the therapist get to grips with my concerns. I'd do it again. I suppose it can't hurt for you both to try it a few times? That's the only way you'll know for sure. Good luck and I hope you find happiness

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