How can I support a friend after an abusive relationship?

[Bittenonce]

Asking for a friend (seriously!)
Because I don’t know how to help, get through…
She’s been in an abusive LTR with a work colleague. He’s now left, she was devastated. Doesn’t help she has to see him regularly at work. Now it’s a year or so later, he’s imported a new young Vietnamese wife and my friend is worse than ever ‘why didn’t he marry me, how come I wasn’t good enough?’
She did get round to seeing he was an abusive narcissist who was incapable of sustaining a relationship with anyone but still - he’s managing to do her head in, she can’t understand that she’s better off without him, she can’t seem to move on with her life.
And I don’t have the knowledge- or the words - to help.

Can you encourage her to seek therapy? Sometimes people get stuck in a mindset and therapy can help unpick it and look at things from a different viewpoint.

Therapy is a great suggestion as it’s someone impartial. Yourself, try your best not to be alienated from your friend. Give advice when asked for it, rather than criticising him give examples of a healthy relationship, don’t just slag him off as if she gets back with him and you haven’t held back she’ll know how you feel about him. Finally, write everything down that she tells you. You never know how these things will end.