Relationship ending, don’t know how to start over at 34

[onmyownagainn]

I’m 99.9% sure my relationship is over. We’ve had a rough year, fertility struggles, IVF, multiple miscarriages and still no children. The most recent miscarriage was a fortnight ago. I really thought he was the one, or at least he was for me, he was absolutely the person I wanted to spend my life with but that feeling obviously isn’t mutual.

There was no big argument or conflict he just went out and didn’t come back and now I haven’t heard from him in almost a week, he’s not been home. I know he’s physically fine as he’s been posting photos and videos from nights out on Facebook regularly. I’ve tried reaching out but just get a thumbs up reaction to messages and no reply. I can’t fix it if he doesn’t communicate, I don’t even know if I want to any more even though my heart is broken. Luckily I own my own flat that I was in the process of selling so I’ve packed my bags and moved back there temporarily but I’m just crying alone looking at my phone and hoping he’ll call which is ridiculous. I feel like I’m drowning it hurts so much. I’m 34, 35 in August, I don’t know how to start over or even if I could, I feel like I’ve lost my shot.

It’s just been a year of losses with the miscarriages and now him. Last week he was telling me he loved me and now I don’t know how we’ve ended up here.

I'm so sorry to read of your recent losses, you must be feeling all over the place. Thank goodness that you still have your own place to live.

Someone that can walk out when you need support, yet post on Facebook is not a good partner.

No one can say what will happen to you in the future, but I don't think that future contains your missing partner. You are still a young woman. It's never too late to start life anew.

You're so young! Believe it or not, this was a lucky escape. It hurts like hell, but it only gets better from here.

Book a brilliant holiday solo, Thailand or Bali. Travel opens up your mind so much and reminds you there is a whole world out there that doesn’t involve your ex

From experience I wouldn't advise doing the pick me dance. So tempting when you're feeling heartbreak and I did that once when I was younger. You're still young, you still have time to live your life starting over. Reset and book a holiday.

Sorry to hear about your losses. I had two miscarriages and then at the age of nearly 41 a healthy pregnancy and baby. You never know the direction life can take you. Get the holiday booked, reset and try to move on. Don't look back for him. I wish you all the luck in the world x

Jesus what an arsehole
I’m so sorry he’s done this
might be worth booking in for some therapy sooner rather than later

I'm so sorry OP what an absolute bastard! I'm furious on your behalf and hope you find your anger soon!

You're still young and have many adventures in front of you. You don't want to be with someone who could treat you this way. Reach out to your family and friends and get some support, make some plans for the next few weeks. Don't sit crying over that bastard - he doesn't deserve your tears. He doesn't deserve another minute of your time 💐

I just don’t understand why he’s done this. It was literally all fine and then he just didn’t come back home. I feel like I deserve some sort of explanation but he just won’t engage. Dealing with the aftermath of the miscarriage alone is awful too when he appears to be having the time of his life on social media

If it helps from a man's point of view... he has checked out (at least for now). It seems he has decided he is doing his thing and will probably come back once he has had his fun! Do yourself a favour and get out now, at 34 you still have plenty of years ahead of you, i met my wife when I was 34 and we have been together 20 years now.
After everything you have gone through together he should be there with you, the fact he isn't should tell you enough... you deserve better 😌