I split from my partner 8 months ago. We didn't live together because I live with my daughter who has autism. We were together 5 years. Some good times punctuated by a lot of rows mainly due to his drinking and being a dick on alcohol. I got sick of the rows and walked away. The dog we shared (who lived with him) was put to sleep last week and he was devastated. I dealt with it all and was there to sympathise with him as I am not callous as he was so upset as I was. We got talking and I thought maybe the break apart did us both good and we could maybe try again. I knew he was keen. He has taken no responsibility for his drinking and how it contributed to our break up. It was never physical but was verbal at times. I am 55 and don't need any drama. He said he missed me and wasn't coping well. Fast forward a few days and I discover he has been drinking all day today. I challenged him by phone and he said I was hard work! I said what normal person drinks during the day on a Monday. I said I wasn't going back to that and I have to think about myself and I can't fix him. He needs to fix himself. He's in total denial. He thinks I'm the one that is hard work. I told him I would be there as his friend but that is it. He has some good qualities and isn't a bad person. I just think it's a turn off that he isnt doing constructive things with his day. He is on the sick for mental health issues atm. I don't want to hurt him. He makes me feel like a power struck manipulator and like I am pulling all the strings with our relationship. I feel like a gaslighter or something! He said I am back to my old self and hammering him again and it is sick. I just want a healthy relationship. I was doing ok on my own for 8 months. Maybe I got back with him over sympathy for the dog. He just can't see he is at fault. I am not perfect but in the last three days I got him antibiotics for a chest infection and helped him in other ways. Wtf do i do? No harsh judgement please as I am looking for clarity.