Hi
Just looking for some advice from any co parents please just so I can learn from a recent relationship.
A-bit of background we are all women she has two children she co parents with a ex wife. Divorce just finalised been separated over a year. The house needs to be sold. The ex wife left to be with a woman from work they are still together.
I met the woman I was seeing on a dating app. Talked for a while before meeting. Really great first date started seeing each other every other weekend when she was free.
Made it clear I know the kids come first and no plans to meet them unless it became something long term in the future. She always made it clear she never wanted to get married again which is not something I want anyway. She told me the ex wife had said she would find it difficult when she started dating again.
I know the ex and family have been asking lots of questions and making comments. It was all going good probably one of the healthiest connections I have had. Equal effort openness etc.
Then we get to the last weekend I see her we went out on the Friday night in to Town to see a comedian. On the taxi ride there she was saying I bet I used to attract a lot of women when I go out etc just put it down to because I had made an effort. On the Saturday afternoon I saw her ex sent a picture of the kids through and it was like a shutter went down and she totally shut off.
When I look back there have been a few times where the ex has rang or text when she knows we are together and it’s like a total cut off and she will say she would just be happy with her and the kids.
After that weekend it won’t come as a surprise to say she asked for space and then ended things a week later.
Because I do not have children and not really dated anyone long term before that has. Is that a usual response to hearing from your ex and not seeing your children I know it must be extremely difficult.