How do I detach from a situationship 😫

[Doomgloom41]

Ok let me start by saying I am fully aware of how pathetic I am! 😂. I’m divorced. Husband had an affair. I matched with someone on the dating apps and I can’t even call it a situationship. It’s sex. Absolutely amazing sex. However, this has been going on for TWO years now 🤦🏼‍♀️. I’ve told him many times I’m looking for a proper relationship and not just sex. He avoids and ignores the message or changes the subject. I can’t seem to let go because the bedroom chemistry is insane!!
But I know I need to as in the long run, I’m just hurting myself as I feel I am ready to meet someone and have a proper relationship. Issue is nobody wants me 😂

Sincerely,

Ms Utterly Pathetic 😂

You need a cold turkey solution.

Find a moment of strength block then delete (from everything) .

Then stay busy
Gym, friends more OLD ....whatever

Only you can change this, you’re talking like it’s something outside of your control, but it isn’t. He isn’t going to suddenly change his mind. To his mind it doesn’t really matter if SAY you want a relationship, because he’s reaping the benefits of casual sex (nothing wrong with casual sex but it is what it is, it’s not going to suddenly become a relationship).

Totally agree. It’s all on me. Hence the ‘pathetic’ sign off!!

I agree you have to go cold turkey. He will never see you as long term relationship material. It’s been 2 years.

Can you continue the situationship while you look for a proper relationship? (BTW, I don't have an answer. I have a guy I keep getting back in contact with because sex is amazing, even though he's an arse. The struggle is real!)

It’s not pathetic, we’ve all been there 😅

But the only thing you can do is end it and block him if you want more than the sex from him.