I am seriously considering leaving my partner because of what I consider to be an unhealthy relationship with alcohol - she seems to be unable to go a single day without a drink or two, regularly has a drink mid morning on a Saturday or Sunday, often brings a glass of wine or can of lager up to bed at night, always wants to stop at a pub if we have been out somewhere and has, rather proudly, told me some of the things she has done in the past, when drunk - wetting the bed, urinating in public, urinating in the ottoman in her spare room, having mistaken it for the toilet, and, with her friend, and when she was single, going round all the pubs in town, at Christmas, or when the rugby was in town, or at the races 'snogging' as she puts it, "all the good looking men". Her two closest friends ( a couple) are heavy drinkers and make light of, and joke about, their alcohol consumption. I once asked them if they were considering doing 'stoptober' and was instantly shut down with "we don't do that shit!".
Admittedly I have never seen her, nor would ever want to, in a drunken state, but, as a consequence of being brought up in a household with an alcohol dependant parent I am very cautious, wary and watchful around alcohol. A previous partner was also a secret drinker until she ended up in hospital with acute pancreatitis, was in ICU for a fortnight and nearly died, so my experiences with alcohol have always been negative and I am unsure if I am showing an unconscious bias and possibly seeing 'problems' which are not there, but I cannot, and will not, have a drinker in my life.