What helped you 'glow up' after a bad experience?

[MarilynMerlot]

Just that, really. I'm very recently post a shitty ending to something and am looking for nice examples of things that have made you feel better after a heartbreak.

I've already had a hair freshen and committed to going for a nice walk in the park every day rain or shine. Might see if I can get back into pottery because I enjoyed that. Going to see some friends this weekend rather than curl up and cry in bed which frankly is what I feel like doing.

What helped you find yourself again after a wobble?All tips welcome!

Mentally, it was gardening and exercise. Physically, teeth sorted, weight loss and Botox + new clothes.
Sorry you’re having a rough time 💐

I had absolutely zero appetite, unintentionally starved myself, lost a lot of weight and loved my tiny new body (thank you 90s magazines for making me think thin=worthy).

Clothes shopping was fun though.

Discovering that another person's perception and rejection doesn't define me!

@Plasticdreams oh i love the idea of the garden, I could only have small window boxes/balcony stuff but I have been thinking about it!

What's botox like as - unrelated to the my break up - I've been thinking about it

What @xOlive said. After my partner announced he wanted to separate a few months ago
I was traumatised and had no appetite for weeks so lost a lot of weight. I’ve since started eating normally again but love being slimmer, and have increased my time in the gym to get more toned. I’m growing my hair longer and have dyed it, I’m putting on more makeup and making an effort with my hair. I’ve bought loads of new clothes from Vinted and sold old ones. Oh I also had my eyebrows done for the first time in my life. Not too fussed about Botox. I’m still gutted about the split but I look and feel great ! Good luck OP.

For me conversely it was stopping dying my hair. I had only done it for him. Getting the majority cut out, and then watching it grow out felt great, and it was in much much better condition because it wasn’t being processed

Refreshing my wardrobe, helped, but mostly the stress of living with him lifted so my skin looked better, my posture was better, I smiled a lot more, I had a spring in my step.

After my last breakup I too lost a lot of weight. I kept it off, and totally overhauled my diet and exercise routine. I spent the time I would have spent with the ex on myself exercising and doing nice things for myself (eg reading a book, taking a bath). Grew my hair out, changed my hairstyle, got a consultation with a stylist and overhauled my wardrobe.

I’m now physically in the best shape I’ve ever been, feel energised and look amazing!

I'm loving all of these, and I need to get back in the gym! And I have also succumbed to Vinted 😂

Definitely the gym as it’s good for your mind and will help you sleep better and eat better, plus you’ll love your new toned body soon enough which will give you a confidence hit, hair cut and colour, nails and brows done, also being kind to yourself and having a little pamper here and there helps.

You won't find your glow outside of yourself. Good healthy eating and exercise will help of course. But strength is in depth.

Collagen. I actually can't believe the difference it has made to the skin on my face.

I buy myself flowers. Usually the £2,59 ones. But they remind me that I dont need a man...to buy me flowers.

• Losing weight
• Eating healthy
• Drinking less/zero
• Meditation
• As much sun as possible
• Gym
• Getting steps in every day
• New clothes / toiletries
• Spa days
• Really fucking long walks!

Would you mind telling me which brand?

It’s great but finding the right person is very important - if they place it incorrectly it can make you look worse!
I use Dr Perry at Cosmedics in London. I always go back to him as I’ve tried so many other places and it’s never how I want it. He’s never let me down in over 15 years of using him intermittently.

My last break up I was 34. I thought it was ‘game over’ so to speak, so I went ahead and froze my eggs. The doctor advised not drinking and generally being super healthy ahead of the procedure, which I did for about 3 months, and consequently my skin looked amazing.

I also lost appetite and lost a ton of weight and my arse tragically. I also had a lots of sex which is only advisable if you are mentally ok with that sort of thing. Connected with really good friends went back to my hobbies and exercise. I'm sorry you are going through it but sounds like you are up for Getty back to yourself which is half the battle.

I have good days and bad days, today is a bad day. Wondering what the point of all this is, he'll never want me again no matter how good I look or how many sodding pinch pots I make.

So you do it for you. NOBODY ELSE!!

Start by being authentic.

I think maybe I'm too in the grief bit to think about the next bit yet.

There’s lots of self care things you can do which can help you feel better and sleep better .
For me , time was the great healer , it just hurt less after a while . And suddenly I didn’t think about him anymore .
it was a bit of ‘fake it til you make it ‘
Some talking therapies might also help you work thru the grief and loss . Saying it out loud def helps .