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Husband constantly putting me down

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Marissa270 · 18/06/2026 17:08

Does anyone else’s husband/partner make mean comments from time to time such as you need to go to the gym or you’re always home doing nothing. That’s not true by the way I am a stay at home mum but I’m always busy around the house and with the kids. I’ve not been in the best of health and I suffer from high blood pressure so I’m not currently able to go to the gym. Also a size 10 so not overweight. It’s usually when he’s in moods he starts comparing me to other women saying so and so is a better mum than you or so and so goes out to the gym. Even so much as saying I’m wearing too much makeup and the fashion is now minimal makeup! He’s just constantly so critical which is hurtful especially since I get compliments from other people but not him. Anyone been in a similar situation or know how I can navigate this? If it helps he does sometimes compliment me but only when he’s in a good mood as horrible as that sounds!

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LittleTeePot · 19/06/2026 16:27

OP, he is mean. You don't need someone being mean to you everyday. There's no reason for you to waste your life being abused by a prick.

Givemeausernamepls · 19/06/2026 16:30

Yes my ex use to do this. Use to never know what mood he’d been in or what would set him off!

Throw the whole man out, a better life awaits you!

Marissa270 · 19/06/2026 17:24

LittleTeePot · 19/06/2026 16:27

OP, he is mean. You don't need someone being mean to you everyday. There's no reason for you to waste your life being abused by a prick.

Thanks totally agree

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Marissa270 · 19/06/2026 17:25

Givemeausernamepls · 19/06/2026 16:30

Yes my ex use to do this. Use to never know what mood he’d been in or what would set him off!

Throw the whole man out, a better life awaits you!

Yes it’s so tiring, that sounds like my best option!

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EmailsaysOOO · 19/06/2026 19:01

No I've never had to go through that. Sorry OP. you don't need that. Do as others are saying and don't continue getting this horrible treatment from him.

Marissa270 · 19/06/2026 22:57

EmailsaysOOO · 19/06/2026 19:01

No I've never had to go through that. Sorry OP. you don't need that. Do as others are saying and don't continue getting this horrible treatment from him.

Thanks yes I’m preparing to ask for a divorce

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MrFlintstone · 19/06/2026 23:08

Hi Marissa, this is totally not your fault.

Your man has changed because he wants out, for whatever reason, but is taking the cowards way out and making you make the decision. A no fault divorce is the way to go. Good luck.

OhCobblers · 19/06/2026 23:24

Marissa270 · 19/06/2026 22:57

Thanks yes I’m preparing to ask for a divorce

You don’t “ask” him for a divorce OP - you TELL him you’re getting a divorce. Tell him you are no longer putting up with his nasty snide shitty behaviour

category12 · 20/06/2026 06:41

Yeah you don't need to ask, he doesn't get a vote on this. It only takes one person to end a relationship.

Marissa270 · 20/06/2026 09:12

Thanks I meant to say I’m filing for divorce. I’ve made an appointment with a divorce solicitor next week so I plan on surprising him when everything is in place

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