Moving towards seperation - reality?

[EMDRwife]

Hello
Have posted about my marriage under this username and others. Despite my best efforts to try to support my husband and his mental health, it’s getting to the point where my mental health and that of my oldest DS(9) is starting to suffer. My DD couldn’t sleep last night as was too worried about his dad.

I spoke with a solicitor yesterday and he has talked through the process for custody. Given my husband’s mental health and issues with alcohol (he is allegedly sober at the moment) the solicitor seemed confident that the court would listen to me and my request that he does not have them overnight. I am not about stopping custody altogether, that wouldn’t be fair on either him or the kids. I am worried that the solicitor was being too optimistic. Does anyone have experience of having real concerns which can be evidenced but not being listened to by the courts?

TIA

No, but worrying for things that might never come to pass is just adding to your stress. The courts have seen it all and are skilled at knowing what is BS or is valid, and they know if a person is being spiteful or has valid concerns and are being selfless versus selfish.

The control you have is keeping detailed documentation, and seeking mediation if necessary if your soon-to-be-ex acts inappropriately. Good luck.

Bumping incase any other words of wisdom