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How to stop feeling insecure in marriage

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Lara20 · 13/06/2026 22:28

Hi everyone I was wondering if anyone has any advice or been in a similar situation. I have a good marriage and we really love each other, we also have 2 daughters. But lately my husband’s been working a lot more than usual and barely has any time to spend with us. He also used to call/text a lot more frequently whilst at work but now he has to have quick phone calls as he’s always busy. He’s also been less affectionate & barely makes any conversation. He says it’s because he’s hugely stressed at work & is exhausted. However he makes time to see his friends on weekends & has a happy mood around them he’s just down when he’s around me. He says he loves me etc & keeps making excuses when I ask why he’s changed so much. I’m just feeling incredibly insecure & unloved & not sure if this is just a phase or how to go about it really. Thanks

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TheAvidWriter · 13/06/2026 22:55

How long has he been like this?

This would make my spidery senses go rattling like mad.

What is your gut tellling you?

TootSwete · 13/06/2026 22:58

Expect the time and happiness he gives his friends at the weekend and settle for no less.

YoBetty · 13/06/2026 23:01

Well... it could be what other people are thinking, or it could be that home is his safe space where he doesn't have to put on a front for colleagues/chums.

Some children are like this at school - they get stressed out and overwhelmed, are well-behaved at school, but drop the facade and totally kick off when they get home.

Natalie270 · 13/06/2026 23:17

Are you possibly suspecting he’s cheating due to the change in behaviour?

Wholegrainmustard · 13/06/2026 23:36

How long have you been married?

EnjoyThePettyLiar · 14/06/2026 09:49

Read 'The Script' book now!

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