Should I suggest a drink

[TWWGMTW]

Met someone online by chance on a niche forum. Good chats, he was really engaged, asked for my contact details, texting regularly.

We seem to be aligned on key values and he presents as a serious, maybe cautious, level headed person. Have been in contact for several weeks now, talking about politics, values, interests. Similar humour and has been easy chat. Then he went on holiday (which he said) and nothing since (it has been a few days which is longer than normal).

We live in different cities but he's in my area a lot. Thinking of reaching out down the line saying "enjoyed chatting, let me know if you’d like to grab a drink when you’re next in the area”. Should I go for it or leave it? (Normally I would be hesitant but something tells me not to be here.)

Do you know that hes single, have you spoken about relationahips?

I wouldn’t. Let him suggest it.

I think that’s sound very reasonable, it’s not pushy and puts the ball in his court , I’d go for it x

Yes he’s definitely single. The forum had a dating slant so that is why we started talking but our conversations have definitely been on the academic, but playful side, if that makes sense. He escalated by asking for my number and we were both very consistent for several weeks but then stopped. I do wonder if he needs some encouragement. Reason im hesitant is that I did message last but up until then I would say it was very well matched, and if anything he was asking more questions (which I matched). Either that or I have put him off with my responses haha!

Also we do live fairly far away but my take is that if we get on very well, who knows what the future holds. We also both knew locations right from the beginning

I agree with this.

I mean what have you got to lose anyway if he hasn't contacted you since his holiday?

Ok sounds nice.

A drink wouldn't hurt.

It would be lovely if you were close by, happy to meet if you are available.

He escalated by asking for my number

In which case it’s your turn to signal further interest.

So he's been back several days, frim
hus holiday, but not messaged you?

who did he go with??

I wouldn't contact him. He's chosen not to bother contacting you since he came back. You don't ^know* he's single just because you met him on a site that has a dating element.

Agree!

I mean, if you're already planning a rosy future together with long evenings in a garden with a white picket fence - you ought to do a lot more diligence, check up on him from other angles. Personally, I would think that a weird way to start what might turn out to be a distance friendship or a quick fling.

Call him, though. Good luck!