What's wrong with me??

[Delilah418]

Im [19F] and I met a guy a few years ago who's [31M], with two baby mamas and 4four kids. We fell in love but for obvious reasons, I can't or won't be with him. I can't be a stepmother and my parents actually don't want me talking to him and say he's a groomer. I'm in college to be a teacher and I met a great guy my age. He loves me and treats me great!! The problem is I can't stop thinking about the what ifs with the 31 year old. Is it a fantasy? Daddy issues or am I crazy enough to love and believe this guy??? My mom and step dad tell him he's just needing a baby sitter. I feel like if I don't stop he'll mess up my new relationship.

Leave him alone - different ages - different stages

It would go absolutely nowhere plus a guy with 4 kids hasn’t really got time to date between working and parenting

Gross.

Firstly nothing is wrong with you, when I was your age I was very attracted to old guys but more in a sexual way than long term relationship. With that being said it sounds like this man will come with a lot of baggage so you need to be realistic with yourself and if you don't want that you can either 1. End things with him 2. See him in a casual relationship.

Good luck either way :)

You're seeing someone else so you aren't in love with the older guy. Block him and move on.

Your parents are right to be concerned.

you will wish you had stayed with the nice guy

Do your future self a massive favour and leave the older guy alone.

You really don't need to be baby mama 3. Does he know he can put a rubber on it, fgs?

You're 19! Have fun with your mates, date the guy your own age, date other guys, live a bit. Go traveling. Learn to unicycle .

The world is your oyster, don't get involved with some feckless bloke with 4 kids already.

He's 31 and you are 19. When he was 19, you were a little girl of 7.

Does that help?

Another thread of yours says you have a daughter of 18

Youre 19

Get yourself to the club and forget about both of them!

If I had my time again thats exactly what I'd do. Relationships can wait for a bit

Are you referring to your daughter here?!? As you have posted about a daughter of this age!