Need some advice

[GentleBalonz]

Hiya guys I need some advice,a few days ago my washing machine stopped working,and my husband was upset with me when talking to him about it,as we might have to get another one,since yesterday he’s completely ignoring my calls and texts,and he’s not talking to me anymore,I just told him that i didn’t like the way he spoke to me and told him to speak nicely to me when the kids are home,as my little one was home that time ,we have got 3 kids together and one due in September,don’t know what to do,haven’t told my parents yet,thinking of divorce but scared because of the kids,and I don’t work as I’m a housewife

There is an awful lot going on here and I’m trying to make sense of it.
Is he ignoring you whilst in the home?
Will a new machine be something that will be hard for you to afford as a family? With three kids and another nearly here you will need one.
This is clearly about more than a washing machine if you are thinking about divorce.
It would help to know a bit more for context?

Yh he’s ignoring me since yesterday

What a terrible man, that's outrageous.
He clearly sees you as a facilitator in his life, and if you present practical difficulties which affect daily life for both of you, he sees that as a failure in your role as facilitator, rather than an opportunity to employ some teamwork.

Others will offer practical advice, but for the moment, I'm just reaffirming in your mind that he's terrible.

For the moment do you have funds to outsource your washing to a service? If you are lucky enough to be able to, you do your things and your kids' things. But on no account do you sort his things.
Avoid any more comment about the broken machine, you've given him the facts and he has ears.
That's just for starters.

Yh I have funds in my account,going to see if can get fixed from the company where we got it from,otherwise will get a new one,he just said he was upset with me and doesn’t want to tell me again

He sounds absolutely horrible.
It’s a bit concerning that you are continuing to have children with someone who treats you and your children like crap.

Sorry, he's upset with you because the washing machine isn't working? Why does he think it's your fault? He sounds like a twat!

Lots of details missing. Jumping to divorce from an argument about the washing machine and not talking for a day sounds like quite a leap, esp with three kids and one on the way. Is he happy about having so many kids and being the only breadwinner? Is there financial stress as a result? Obviously he should talk respectfully to you, and silent treatment is childish, but there is obviously a lot more going on.

So this is the original message he sent yesterday,he has got financial stress as he’s paying all the bills,he’s been asking me to pay some money to him for the bills,but now I don’t as Im struggling financially as I’m not working and paying for the kids lunches,nursery and taekwondo,he is happy with having kids,he’s just stressed about less work-he’s a taxi driver

So, he is upset because you did something that caused the washing machine to break/burn out and he has to find the money for it? He doesn't sound abusive or nasty in these messages, just a bit ham handed (and perhaps English isn't his first language and something is lost in translation?).

Using the silent treatment IS abuse.

Everyone deals with money worries at some point, and this washing machine breaking is not your fault, it is just one of those things that happens in every household at some point, and blaming you and not talking to you I am not surprised you are thinking of going solo. You dont need this stress all because of a washing machine while you are pregnant. Or ever.

You are paying for a lot if you are taking on nursery and childrens activites, as well as other household bits. I don't know, is there more to this than just the washing machine?

So you actually broke the washing machine op? Yeah I'd be pissed too.

That said silent treatment is abusive and also, "When you do something wrong, it's my responsibility to let you [know] so you don't repeat it...."

Oh hell no.

Who the hell does he think he is?

Instant ick, instant. I honestly think I would leave a man who spoke to me in such an infantilising way. He think's he's your superior. Yuk.