How to make mornings fair?

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So my partner works as a door supervisor at a club, I'm unemployed at the moment. Our daughter who is 22 months is in child minders on Monday to give me and my partner a day to ourselves. Ill be working in September as I have something lined up.

He doesn't have a fixed schedule so its hard to plan who gets up with her in the morning but he mostly works from Wednesday night to saturday night. I obviously let him sleep in after his night shifts but when he doesnt have night shifts he still stays in bed in the morning? I honestly feel like hes just taking advantage of me. If we split he would have her on these days when he doesn't have work so I dont know why he deserves a lie in every single day. When I try talk about it in the morning he just shuts me down with "im not arguing right now" and I try to explain im literally just asking you to get up this morning because you can. On our day off he had a meeting with his work so after I got our toddler ready in the morning I went back to sleep until like 2pm, the longest sleep ive had in a while haha. Yesterday morning he just said "you had the longest sleep ever why do you need a lie in im tired" ugh. When the annoying thing is its apparently my job no matter what to get her up in the morning by myself while he just sleeps. Im getting so fed up with this and I know this is long but for some reason its hard to explain this situation. Im feeling so angry towards him, and he knows this, he just doesnt care. I've spoken about moving out with our toddler and closer to my family because I feel so lonely. Even when he is up he hardly does anything because I am here. He would take over if I refused to do anything but then I would feel so guilty, like in the mornings ive just led there while he was obviously awake and knew she was awake, omg im just angry and I want to know what I can get us to do in the mornings and whats fair for both of us. I dont just take over straight away too I already give him some time to take over but he never does and when I have managed to get him to finally get up instead of me (cant even remember why) he gets up and acts really angry at me and just stays in with her snd doesnt go out and do anything. I feel like his work is taking over our lives.

Thin end of the wedge.
Start making your LTB plans. If not, you’ll be back here next year telling us about more batshit behavior he’s handing out.

If you can move back closer to family, do it. Just get on with it. Don’t even bother to discuss your plans with your inconsiderate lazy arsed excuse of a father & partner.

Honestly I am already looking at movie those plans haven't stopped im just wondering how to get him to help while im here because its all on my shoulders right now.

Also going to add i already told him I was going to move recently, he was going out drinking after his shifts so he knows what hes been doing wrong already, when I said im going to leave he said not to take her away from him but like he hardly sees her now?? I just dont understand. As im unemployed I think i have to look at private rented places and get help from housing allowance, I also have applied for council housing but im not a priority.

Did he want a child? Have you asked him, in general terms, why he’s so uninterested in her?

I’d leave. Do it now and get stuff in place before you go back to work.

Does he do anything for your child at other times?

He loves her so much, we speak about her so much, he can pack her whole bag and know what to pack and be left alone with him with no stress. The problem is when im here he leaves everything to me, and she was planned.