Recently found out my partner of 10 years is hiding and deleting apps where he can speak to other women when he’s at work during the night. We have three kids together and his excuse is “a midlife crisis” he’s hardly 30. He says I don’t give him enough intimacy but when I’m solo parenting looking after my three kids all day by myself while he sits and does things for himself or sits on his phone and doesn’t wasn’t to spend time with them it becomes exhausting and unfortunately the intimacy takes a step back.
yeah I get I could try harder but he doesn’t help with the kids so there’s that.
Says he doesn’t know what he wants or if he needs a break from us and the parental responsibility’s to see if he wants to explore other people but can’t understand if he does this then we will never get back together. We will never be a couple again as I cannot agree to let him go “explore”
Is this even worth trying to fix or am I wasting my time on him/trying to get answers.
the apps in question are “Snapchat, KIK, telegram, teleguard, signal, zangi, chat iw, sessions” all what you’d expect someone in their late teens early 20s to use.