My husband always wants me to go to bed at the same time as him. He never says it directly, but I know it is because he wants sex. I have told him many times that I am exhausted from Monday to Friday and often do not want it. As a result, I sometimes deliberately find excuses to stay up later, but he then becomes angry or annoyed the following morning.
This morning, he complained in front of our son that my staying up late was a reflection of my poor time management. I told him that he could not control when I go to bed and that I am free to use my own time however I choose. He became furious, got into the car with our son, and drove off. We had planned to do the school drop-off together and then collect something elsewhere afterwards.
To be honest, I felt relieved that he decided to go alone. However, he did not give me a chance to explain to our son why I was not coming. I felt sorry for my son, who had to sit through his father's constant complaining and criticism in the car.
My husband can be very selfish. He often stays up late watching YouTube videos. I never stop him and let him do whatever he wants. The only time I say anything is when I see him falling asleep in his chair, and even then I simply remind him that he should probably go to bed.
I never question his irresponsible and unhealthy life styles, as long as it does not disrupt the family routine. Unfortunately, his late nights affect everyone because he becomes very irritable when he does not get enough sleep. Even worse, he has woken me up in the middle of the night, sometimes at two or three in the morning (when he went to bed), because he wanted sex.
A few weeks ago, we had a huge argument about this. The night before, I refused his request and told him that waking me up purely to satisfy his own needs was extremely selfish. He responded by saying that my refusal was a form of manipulation. I was speechless. At that moment, I just wanted a divorce.
Shortly afterwards, I had to leave the country to see my family. When I returned, we both acted as though nothing had happened. We managed to have a few peaceful days, but then the same issues resurfaced again this morning.
At this point, I honestly just want to leave him as soon as possible. However, I do not know whether I can afford to rent a property on my own. I do not have a regular income, and with the new rental regulations, I worry that passing the referencing process will be very difficult.