Am I being unreasonable?

[makeupgirlie]

This may be long so thank you for taking the time in advance!

So myself and my partner of 9 years are expecting our first baby together in a matter of weeks! How exciting!
However, I have been getting really annoyed recently with my partners dad. We normally get on really well. He is in his early 70s.
Recently his dad has been saying comments towards me such as I’m ‘moody’ ‘cheer up’ or most recent ‘smile it might never happen’ when I have been in the house for 5 minutes and been in an alright mood. I mean I’m pretty tired and heavily pregnant which I’ve told him on multiple occasions but he has never said these kind of things to me. Only now, oh and he stares at me a lot, he says he’s only joking but then continues to do it.
But that’s not the only thing, he is constantly asking my partner for lifts too and from places at least 3 times a week minimum. I’m all for helping him out but he has a bus pass that come from outside his house that he won’t use and I have told my partner that I think we need to set some boundaries as the baby will be there in a matter of a few weeks, and with a newborn his priority should be that. May I also add my partner is not his only child, he has 3 more. I have felt like this has gotten worse the further into the pregnancy. Also he’s constantly checking up on what my partner is doing. God forbid you don’t answer the phone the first time either!
I don’t know if it’s the hormones but this is all really getting to me. I want my partner to be present with me when the baby is here but I feel like his dad’s going to be calling all the time, asking my partner to do things. I’m I being unreasonable for wanting my partner to place some boundaries so that when baby is here we can have some peace?

Is your partners Mum in the picture, if so what is her reaction? If not and he lives alone l would continue to call him out on the comments and ask him to stop. Be very firm. Ask your partner to support you in this, he should be anyway! lf it persists then don't visit him. His son can see his Dad on his own, you don't need to go along every time. Your partner also needs to be clear to him that the new baby will be a priority.l wouldn't try to stop him helping his Dad out , just make sure it's at a time that suits you both.

What does your DP say? Surely it’s up to him to reassure you and set boundaries?

He agrees that things recently have been strange with how his dad is towards me. But we can’t put our finger on what’s going on. He has asked his dad to stop with the comments. But he’s always saying his dad’s done a lot of him so he feels like he has to always say yes to him.

You have a partner problem. He needs to say no. Or does his father give you financial support and if he says no, then that will stop?

When he does say no or that he’s busy, it’s as if his dad gets annoyed by that. So then it makes him feel bad.