How do you come to terms with being used by a parent?

[HurtRightDownToMyCore]

How do you come to terms with being so worthless to someone? I was abused by one of my parents for years and years. Something happened and I had to literally save their life. I thought this would change how they felt.
Not at all. I’m shocked.

No kindness towards me, used me to stay alive and now I’m back to where I was. How do you deal with just being an object to someone, something to abuse, something to use if you need something. Tricking me being kind to make me help then discarding me.

You get counselling if possible. You try to remind yourself that you are a kind person with value, and their inability to see that is due to a deficiency in them not you.
Do you have friends, other family or work colleagues who give you positive interactions. I don't mean deliberate attempts to boost you because they see how badly you've been treated, though that's good if you have that. But people who consistently or regularly show appreciation for who you are. Who confirm you make a contribution to other people's lives and show they enjoy it value your company.
List your achievements and take note of every positive thing in your day. A pleasant meet up with a friend is evidence people want to be around you and want your company. Finishing a piece of work shows you make a contribution to your team or colleagues. A customer thank you to you, or you showing appreciation of something someone else has done show you are a better person than they will.ever be, because you build people up, not tear them down. So you make a positive difference in the world where they bring a negative influence in your life.
Please don't let these cruel, empty people destroy your esteem. Look for affirming relationships and block your parents permanently. They are worse than worthless to you and don't deserve any notice or consideration from you.

You remind yourself you're a better person than they are 💕

Boundaries

My mother took advantage of my divorce when I was 24 to abuse me financially. She emotionally blackmailed me into spending most of my financial settlement on relocating her, myself and my younger brother back to our home country...even getting me to spend thousands transporting her fake repo 'antique' furniture (which promptly fell apart in the heat).

The stress of living with her caused me to have a massive nervous breakdown and I was back in the UK a year later with £50 to my name. I was homeless for 3 weeks before a charity helped me find a bedsit.

34 years on (and I'm now the same age she was at the time) I deal with it by having next to nothing to do with her. I haven't seen her in 17 years and have no plans to do so. Contact is a phone call every month or so. Moving to the other side of the world is a drastic solution, but it was the best for my mental health.