Colleagues Husband Is On Gay Site

[Hannah363]

After some advice please. My work colleagues husband is on fabguys and has been actively seeing men.
it is undeniably him as there are videos and photos of him with men and verifications dating back 6 years.
They are married with kids and this would destroy her. She deserves to know, but not sure how this would land coming from me, do I let karma take its course or discuss this with her? It is a horrible position to be in

Are you sure she doesn’t know? She may be aware he’s gay/bi and they have an arrangement.
How well do you know her and how did you find out about this?

Email her the link. She could be catching any kind of STD off him!

Get that link to her one way or another.

I would e-mail receipts from a new email account. I wouldn’t say it was you in case she does know. You are right she does deserve to know if she doesn’t already. If she responds you can decide whether you disclose it was from you or not.

Just completely irrelevantly but out of my own curiosity- how do you know?

How do you know, Hannah?

@Hannah363 how have you found this out?

It just seems a bit odd that someone I'm assuming is female has found their way on to such a site.

Anyway, I'd mind my own business.

my feeling is it isn’t my business and best to stay out of it, but I do feel bad for her.
My friend told me he had seen him on there and shown me.
He is using a different name so I don’t think it’s an arrangement otherwise why lie

Just do the right thing

I’d probably just stay out of it to be honest, as if she doesn’t believe you, or she chooses to forgive etc, could come back on you. Or tell her but keep anonymous.

Tell her obvs! It doesn’t matter what happens to your friendship really does it compared to what could be happening to her.

Similar happened to my friend and she has never been the same, will never recover I don’t think. It was the secrecy that’s done her in; she only discovered it after her husband’s departure on a computer. You have a chance to break that open for her so she can repair, and also your telling her will give her a line back to reality and confirmation it is wrong.

Yeah email
her the link with new email
address