usband is a good man but we have completely grown apart. Completely different interests and desires for life. Have not been intimate for around 3 years (my choice). My husband is very overweight. Always has been but it is probably at its worst now. He has no interest in basic hygiene, sometime doesn’t change his clothes for a couple of days, drinks huge amounts of fizzy juice and spends most of his time outside work gaming. We haven’t shared a bed for years due to his snoring which the GP has said is due to his weight. He is not depressed, he has just always had little interest in his appearance and health.
I like to exercise, try new things, explore new places and socialise. He doesn’t. All we do together is watch tv.
I love him and care about him and he is my best friend, but I am starting to resent him and can’t bear him being near me at times.
I have tried to support him in so many ways (at his request). I have tried to encourage him to eat more healthily, exercise more, weight loss jabs, cook healthier meals, replacing juice with other liquids, etc….nothing changes.
It is affecting our children who are embarrassed at comments other children make and who are now aware that their dad doesn’t do things with them they see other dads doing eg sports, activities. He drives them places, games or watches movies with them.
They have all said that they are scared he is going to have a heart attack or die me and to his face, nothing changes.
I am so stuck. We are having marriage counselling but fundamentally I want to be in a partnership where I feel some form of romantic connection and have intimacy, unfortunately I don’t see this ever coming back. I won’t know what to do. I feel like I have so much life to live and I cannot see a way out.