He has mental health issues that were diagnosed about 18 months ago.
Things have just got gradually worse.
His doses of tablets have gone up at each visit and now hes been put on 75mg perday of something new.
Hes changed so much the last 4 months and i put it down to the depression.
Turns out hes started smoking weed again,
i say again as we had this about 8 months ago.
i told him then it was acceptable with a young family and i wasn't going to tolerate it.
He agreed and 'stopped'
Last night DS1 was very ill, throwing up, fever ect...
Dh was watching a fight on TV with BIL, i was banging on the floor as DS was being sick, he came up and said he would come up right after the fight and sort DS out (he is a daddys boy and just kept asking for DH)
15 mins later he still had not come back up so i banged on the floor and shouted him again ( i didn't want to leave DS in case he vomited again)
so i looked outside and could see the end of a cig.
I shouted DH and said id BIL smoking weed in the garden?
He said no, cigs! I KNOW this is a lie as he doesn't smoke cigs, just weed.
So I lost it and was shouting to tell BIL to go home, i feel strongly about drugs and he knows that.
Then i asked him if HE had been smoking
he said 'don't be stupid'
i asked again and he said no,
so i said 'remember i was looking out of the window'
and then he admitted it and told me he had been back on it a while
EVERY time his mate has been round hes been desperate to get me to bed... i am SOOOO stupid... how did i not realise he wanted me out of the way so he could smoke in the garden??
I have 2 kids and am pregnant with my 3rd.
I feel like this is the last straw.
He is a depressive, aggressive, liar.
I don't care what other peoples views on weed are, my view is the only one that counts when he is doing it under my roof.
I don't know if i am strong enough to go it alone but I don't want him back here for now.