How did life improve after your ex left for someone else?

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Please tell me your stories about how your ex left you for another woman and your life turned out for the better?!
If you have stories about how your ex's life turned out worse all the better!

Needing some silver linings to hang onto!

Positives were 1. I stopped having to tread on egg shells and 2. Stopped spending hours trying to unravel any truth from his lies. 3. Got a decent financial settlement enabling me to help the DC far more than he would ever have allowed. 4. I met a decent, funny, kind intelligent widower.

Ex lasted a few years with OW but it was turbulent and after living with her a bit he was miserable. He didn’t get on with her DC and vice versa. Eventually he left her too, currently lives alone and feels sorry for himself DC barely see him.

You’re no longer with a cheating idiot who doesn’t deserve you. It takes a while to internalize this but then you realize everything is better.

The main thing for me was not having the constant worry about what hes up to. The other woman had that though . And now hes cheated on her too.

Thank you!
So pleased to hear you are all doing better without them

He became someone else's problem.
For 4 years I had been trying to be this woman he would not cheat on seeing he had form. Cheated on his ex wife with a woman 20 years his junior, and I had no idea until we were months into our relationship. When he told me he had been with the OW for 18 months before telling his then wife after accidentally sending her a message meant for the OW, I had my doubts. How can you lie to the mother of your children? He was forced into coming clean as the text was clearly not for DW. He was remorseful yet at the same time blaming her for not giving him attention. This man was a pro when it comes to lying. I left him in the end after he just could not stop lying, about money, people, work, and yeah the inconsistency that followed this man was comedy. I remember this one morning just not wanting to be round him anymore after yet more lies and controlling behaviour. I told him I was done and the feeling that came after was heightened relief, no remorse, just relief. And guess what, over and over again he tried to wiggle his way back in even if he was seeing someone, he still tried. I blocked and never felt better. My house was finally clean, so was my finances, I had free time and my mind was clear. Get rid of the cheat I say. Just get rid.

No longer having to live with the constant bad temper and rage. Me and the kids can do what we like when we like. We’ve had some lovely holidays. Being able to just feel like me again. Control over my own money and future. I’ve also met someone else that treats me like an absolute queen which at first I found a bit baffling but now I’ve embraced!

To be honest exH and OW seem pretty happy in their own toxic world but I can just roll my eyes now and ignore.

He has done the same 3x more, recently just had another affair and left his wife. Sadly each affair has thought they were different and been shocked when he’s done it again to them.

ive not had to worry about shenanigans and concentrated on my life.

He was so full of guilt he signed the house over to me in exchange for a few thousand pounds.
I had more money to support the children with as he paid fair child maintenance
amd I was already working full time.
I got to sleep at night not worrying about what debt he’d got us in with his gambling.

Thanks for the much needed post OP!

Love this.
Hope life is happy and peaceful for you now x