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Why am I never asked out despite wanting a relationship?

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Miss2009 · 29/05/2026 03:29

I've only been in one long term relationship, which ended three years ago. I know I'm ready for one again and what I want and have good standards. I never get guys come up and chat to me or ask me out though. I have an amazing social life and am out with friends meeting people all the time. I'm a positive person and always happy around people but I'm never asked on a date. I've tried online dating. It's not for me. I found it to be full of users and scammers

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LarksAscending · 29/05/2026 08:51

GreyCarpet · 29/05/2026 07:12

I also disagree that online dating is the only way to do it.

I have been/do get approached by men on a night out but, tbh, I've ever considered going on a date with one of them since my early 20s. They're literally drunk men scouting for girls. Nah.

Tbh I don’t really want to be asked out by randoms, I want to be interested in someone.

Totally agree!

Do you have hobbies? My son goes to a writing group (men and women of all ages) and volunteers one night a week with a food bank that does outreach work in the city centre. He didn't join to meet someone but cold have and has made a number of friends and just really.likes hanging out with people who have similar interests and values to him.

I'm 51 and met my partner 9 years ago through a hobby.

Basically, if you want to meet someone, you need to be proactive. Dont sit around on a shelf waiting for a man to pick you up from it.

Those men aren’t asking you out though. They’re asking to shag 😂

GreyCarpet · 29/05/2026 09:38

LarksAscending · 29/05/2026 08:51

Those men aren’t asking you out though. They’re asking to shag 😂

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Oh I know that! 😄

That was kind of my point. You don't want to he approached by men on a night out because they're literally just going round the room looking for someone to use for the night!

User33538216 · 29/05/2026 09:52

moderate · 29/05/2026 06:13

How many guys have you asked out on a date?

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You really don’t need to quote the OP on the first page; let alone second post in.

moderate · 29/05/2026 09:55

User33538216 · 29/05/2026 09:52

You really don’t need to quote the OP on the first page; let alone second post in.

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You really don’t need to care about this, let alone reply about it.

clearlyy · 29/05/2026 10:00

Men don’t go up to women in bars or clubs anymore. They’re too scared of being rejected or being accused of being inappropriate. I met DP through family connections, I never met anyone decent through the apps.

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