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Is it a red flag?

8 replies

Singlemumlifex · 28/05/2026 13:15

NC for this as dont want it linked to my other posts.

I have been separated from H for around 1 year and we have kids together. I have very tentatively been dipping my toe into the possibility of causally dating as I have more free time when kids are with dad.

I met someone who ive only been seeing for a couple of months and generally speaking they seem lovely.
However, they told me that their past relationship wasn't very healthy with ex having a number of emotional affairs, they stayed together for kids etc and ultimately she left him for someone else.
He did confirm that in their 20s, a number of months before they got married he had a ONS, and told partner about this.

This was more than 10 years ago. But I just dont know if this is a current red flag?

Me and my ex split because he had an EA, so im very cautious about this, but also dont want to throw something away that maybe had been a mistake...

OP posts:
TheseWordsAreMine · 28/05/2026 13:16

We can tell who you are from your style of writting.

Singlemumlifex · 28/05/2026 13:18

TheseWordsAreMine · 28/05/2026 13:16

We can tell who you are from your style of writting.

This is giving 'i know what you did last summer' vibes 😂thanks for the heads up x

OP posts:
user293948849167 · 28/05/2026 13:24

Not necessarily, sounds like his past relationship wasn’t great anyway. The ONS was years ago and at least he was truthful about it.
We have probably all done unwise things in our 20s that we wouldn’t do again

lifeisgoodrightnow · 28/05/2026 14:16

He sounds like he was honest. I’d not see this as a red flag .

Somethingbland · 28/05/2026 14:20

TheseWordsAreMine · 28/05/2026 13:16

We can tell who you are from your style of writting.

Gosh this sounds very cliquey.

I have no idea who OP is.

clearlyy · 28/05/2026 14:28

Somethingbland · 28/05/2026 14:20

Gosh this sounds very cliquey.

I have no idea who OP is.

Me neither!! What a weird talent to have. I can tell who you are by your style of writing!!! 😭🤣

Itsanewdawnitsanewdayitsanewlife4me · 28/05/2026 14:34

If you can tell a poster by how they style their posts methinks you are spending a tad too much on MN of a day.

ImpatientlyWaitingForSummer · 28/05/2026 15:04

TheseWordsAreMine · 28/05/2026 13:16

We can tell who you are from your style of writting.

I don’t know if I’m terrified or impressed at the possibility of this being true!

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