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Would dating my ex girlfriend's friend be acceptable later on?

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LuLu345678 · 26/05/2026 19:58

Does anyone have any experience with the lesbian dating world? I am reasonably new to it having come out slightly later in life.
I recently broke up with my first gf because she cheated on me. Her friends know and have pretty much taken my side. I want to be civil and we have ended on good terms.
The community is fairly small so I am bound to run into her at some point.

The thing is during our relationship I had strong suspicions that one of her friends had a crush on me. It was one of those where she was trying and failing to hide it. This was over the last few months of our relationship. Obviously whilst we were together I made my boundaries clear but in a subtle and non confrontational way.

now I’m single I find myself thinking about this friend a lot. I like her a lot as a person and find her really attractive. She seems to feel the same.

usually this would be a no go in the straight world but I know the friend group is slightly insestuous anyway and with the dating pool being so small there can sometimes be friends dating the same people.

we were together for a year and she isn’t a super close friend of my exes but they have a lot of mutual friends.

I know some time would need to pass at the least and I’m not ready to date for anything serious again yet anyway so happy to wait.

I was just wondering whether this would be seen as acceptable if I was to ask her out or swipe right on her on a app in say a years time?

OP posts:
Larrythecatforpm · 27/05/2026 00:06

Be fine.

Pinkissmart · 27/05/2026 00:07

There’s so many other people in the world. Why make your life more complicated?

TheThingOnTheIce · 27/05/2026 05:48

You say it’d be a no in the straight world but I think if the other party cheated then all’s fair in love and war in any world

WildEnergySupplier · 27/05/2026 06:06

Why would this not happen in the straight world?

If you like her, why wait a year to say something?

Crazyfrog44 · 27/05/2026 06:08

I think this is quite common in the world of lesbian dating.

Ketchuponpizza · 27/05/2026 06:15

I’m in this situation but in a heterosexual relationship. My XH knows but my friend doesn’t know yet, but DP is planning to tell her soon.

I am expecting some negative reaction, but there was no cross over, both relationships were well and truly finished and we are actually really happy and in love.

life is too short.

Tooshytoshine · 27/05/2026 07:57

Absolutely fine in lesbian world... Too few of us to stand on ceremony. Best mate, sister would be different but in a city scene you would find it hard to find somebody in connected in some way who was your type.

No need to wait a year!

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