I need some desperate advice but kind advice.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 7 months now.
it’s hard to put the whole relationship into a message like this but we were so in love. There has been a lot of bumps , I have worked on myself. The latest thing with us is along the way trust has been eroded by him and by me , I try to best to build it again , which I know takes time , the recent thing with him is , him wanting me to prove my life to him , I’m a singer and I go on tour soon , he told me I’m lying and I’m bullshitting , he wants proof , he’s always wanting proof of something with me. I recently had a small surgery and the surgery wound was covered up and I had laser surgery through time to get rid of the scar or try to and I didn’t inform him about the lasers and he now believes I lied about the whole surgery ! But I covered the scar up with makeup and had lasers as I was very insecure about the scar , last night he escalated so badly , he called me a cunt , I had his car keys in my bag and he said “give them to me or I’ll cause a scene” he’s never said anything like that , to add he apparently recently got diagnosed with unipolar depression which I’ve been struggling to deal with , his mood swings are bizarre, he left me in an area and didn’t drive me home last night , told me to prove my career to him , he feels I’m freezing him out and vague and not including him. He said I’ve never seen you perform in 7 months , I said well I am shy and your opinion matters to me etc.
move been building up the courage to perform more. I think I’m now desperately down and don’t know what to do anymore. Kind replies I’m very delicate.
I'm looking for some help and guidance, to me he’s shown red flags. He calls me impossible and that I’m back to the “same old me” when I didn’t do anything wrong yesterday , he said I came down with a face like a slapped arse he said , when I had just had a difficult conversation with my father whom I look after every day and is very hard to do. I also run a business and my career.
He is struggling with himself , his finances, he doesn’t have money , he’s a football coach , he also has family drama , he looks after his mum who has dementia. So it’s all a mess