What the hell?

[HappyRosePombear]

I've been in a relationship for nearly 19 years and I'm questioning all aspects of it.( I have for years but....)
I left him today with two out of three children whilst I took one child shopping as an outting for her birthday - I said can you finish the washing and hang it out whilst I'm out. (to my partner.) I've come home to realise he's not even fed the two kids!? Surely I shouldn't have to add that to the list?!

Is he lazy in all aspects? Give him a huge kick up the arse.

Yes he's a lazy person in general, I repeat myself so much on a daily basis. Is it time to leave? My kids adore him because he's so childlike.

Your dh is childlike? LTB

Why are you in a relationship with such a wanker?

Did he hang out the washing? When did they last eat? Need more info. What are the kids ages? What is the financial situation? Was he too lazy to get married or was that your choice?

You must have to work really hard to keep things going in your household if he’s a lazy sod.

If you split up, he’d have the kids every other weekend and maybe more? Then you could have a break.

He doesn’t sound attractive.

How old are the other children? Given you've been together 19 years and the eldest wanted to go shopping I would assume not little (but may well be wrong) if they're 11+ I'd expect them to make lunch for themselves if they were hungry , I know my 10 year old DN would and actually likes to

Even if older kids, I’d still expect him to offer them something!

He had two to make sure they ate properly. One at 9 year old and one at 16. The 16 year old is a boy - so eats any old snacks going! I have to monitor what he makes and eats.

How have you lasted this long without leaving?

Mine is the same. I'm planning on leaving him...

What has he said when you asked him why he hadnt fed at least the 9 year old?

I assume you HAVE asked him.

He said it came to 3.30 and asked the 9 year old have you eaten? 😱
I left at 9am. Was home by 4.45

Honestly I thought it was better for the kids.

A 16yr old must be capable of making most meals, so it's just the 9yr old who couldn't get themselves something to eat or tell the man they were hungry?

A relationship is for making your life easier, and fun. If this 'childlike' (yuck) boyfriend chooses not to, why keep him around? Your kids can come and go from two houses as they want.

DID he finish the washing and hang it out?
Did he make/eat food (for) himself?
Did either child ask for help or food?
How and when did he become childlike?

I can answer the last one.....because he has never had to fucking grow up.

So what has his excuse been as to why it didnt occur to him to feed at least the 9 year old? And as a pp said.....did he feed himself in this time?

He said he fed himself in the morning and nothing for dinner. I'm not convinced this is truth. I'm so upset. Even if I left, this would be the outcome if he had them of a weekend stay!

Why did neither child/teen get themselves something to eat? Or say they were hungry?