What are we..

[Beachholidaying1979]

Having divorced a few years ago, this is my first time dating since then. We go out, to each others houses, have lots in common, sex is amazing. This has been going on for about 2 and a half months. We text most of the day, everyday but I still don’t know what we are? Obviously im going to have a discussion but don’t know how to bring it up. I’ve been out the game for so long

Have the 'exclusive' conversation if you need to, but why put a label on it? Enjoy the moment...

i find it hard to just enjoy. I think I have some kind of attachment issues

Confused….you were apparently heartbroken at the end of your marriage earlier this month?

I mean in theory, if you have to ask, they don’t want a relationship.

You have a friend with benefits.

The time to clarify was probably before you slept together or, shortly after the first few times. And it should have been him that brought up the conversation. The fact he hasn’t, speaks volumes.

That doesn’t mean you can’t just keep treating it as a just for fun thing without a label. Or that you can’t ask for commitment. But just be aware that he seems to be treating this as a just for fun thing.

Suggest a date with no going back to anyone's house and see how he reacts...

it's a fun thing. It has only been 10 weeks. Back off a little, seems intense to me.