Living Apart Together relationships.. how do they work and what do they look like for you ?

[kangsjrng]

It looks like I will be going down this road with my new person of a few months.

We’re approx 50 miles apart with busy full time jobs, solo parents to teens, family friends and hobbies etc. we love this arrangement as we see each other once per week normally for an overnight stay and a walk now and again through the week . We text, chat, voice note through the week. We’ve had two weekends away and are planning a few days together in summer.
Can I ask what it looks like for you and how did it does it progress. We are in our mid fifties, five years approx from retirement.
We’re new to this game and are enjoying it so who knows where it will go.
Im interested to hear how to navigate it, what works, what doesn’t and how to manage the inevitable disappointments that come despite and because of being apart from each other .

I totally get this. When I buy with my DP it will still be home for DC. They are actually looking forward to moving to a new area. I just didn't want to interrupt them in the middle of exam season, and while they don't have their own transport to see friends. But my home will be their home until they are completely grown up with (or without) children of their own. Even then they will always have a room. I totally get that not everyone has this luxury

Ah - yes, that makes a lot of sense and I do agree!

Our neighbour now in 70s did this. He stayed over Friday night to Monday morning. Now both with health issues he has stopped turning up. It can be a good way to do it in retirement, you get the week to pursue independent interests then the weekend together. They get to keep their assets separate for respective kids.

However, neither have responsibility for each other when the 'in sickness" bit strikes.