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Bizarre dirty talk

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Ajc198 · 18/05/2026 12:16

Hi

My partner of 5 years has suddenly started asking me questions during sex.

It started off by him asking how many men I'd slept with and then moved on to how many of them had cum in me.

It seems to really turn him on.

Hes always embarrassed afterwards and doesn't ask or talk about it any other time. But he has said he likes the idea of me having sex prior to meeting him.

Has any one had any similar experiences and can help me understand why he likes this and what it means?

Im not opposed to it but never really sure what to say.

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WillyCroakit · 18/05/2026 17:33

PP mentioned Cuckolding, but Cuckhold usually comes with a smattering of humiliation, i.e., telling him he's not good enough or too small for you. He actually sounds like he is more on the Hot Wife side of things, where he wants to tell her how desired you were or how hot you are, and that you now his / belong to him.

This can progress to wanting you to take lovers (Bulls) and come back and tell him about it, or watch you, but it sounds as though he is currently happy with the stories.

It's all ok as long as you're ok.

PS None of it has anything to do with being gay or Bi. Think it has always been around, but now more people (Men) are exposed to it through porn. There are Hot Husbands in the interests of equality, but I think this is much rarer.

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Ajc198 · 18/05/2026 18:32

unfaithfulornot · 18/05/2026 17:01

Well that’s polar opposite to my partner who hates the fact that I used to have sex with other men before I met him and I need to pretend like it never happened 😑 it’s an absolute taboo. Men are seriously weird 😑

They are strange creatures.

I have always kept these sort of things from him as I thought it would upset him. I don't think in normal life he want to hear about it. But during sex it seems to really appeal to him. He hasn't expressed any jealously at all.

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Ajc198 · 18/05/2026 18:36

WillyCroakit · 18/05/2026 17:33

PP mentioned Cuckolding, but Cuckhold usually comes with a smattering of humiliation, i.e., telling him he's not good enough or too small for you. He actually sounds like he is more on the Hot Wife side of things, where he wants to tell her how desired you were or how hot you are, and that you now his / belong to him.

This can progress to wanting you to take lovers (Bulls) and come back and tell him about it, or watch you, but it sounds as though he is currently happy with the stories.

It's all ok as long as you're ok.

PS None of it has anything to do with being gay or Bi. Think it has always been around, but now more people (Men) are exposed to it through porn. There are Hot Husbands in the interests of equality, but I think this is much rarer.

Thanks, makes more sense.

For context we are both in our 40s and 3 children, so these terms aren't something im familiar with.

I don't think hes really into humiliation. As I think he knows hes good enough and the larger side.

However, I have once got him to touch himself as I didnt want to have sex and he enjoyed me telling him he wasn't allowed to have sex with me.

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Clydebuilt · 13/08/2026 15:10

Ajc198 · 18/05/2026 13:08

Can I get this moved onto that bored?

I really want some genuine help here. Its easy to brush these things off, but I would like to hear other female (and male) opinions on this to help me understand my partners reason for finding this a turn on.

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Ask him.

Beachlover1993 · 20/08/2026 07:54

Ajc198 · 18/05/2026 15:01

I have never thought about it being homoerotic or anything like that?

He has said he like that not many men have been with me and he asks how many whilst we have sex. I down play the true number.

Gosh, I am now a bit concerned. We have an adventurous sex life and he enjoys me using butt plugs on him and feeding him his pre cum.

Hes also cum in me / on me and liked it off. But I've never questioned his sexuality.

We've discussed threesomes agreed they are not for us as we would be jealous.

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Just sounds normal to me, i would just talk to him about what hou both want from sex

VashtaNerada · 20/08/2026 08:03

It’s the same as anything else in bed, if it makes you both happy then go for it. If it makes you uncomfortable, set a boundary. It’s all down to whether it enhances or kills the mood for you. Everybody’s different.

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