Holidaying with hubby

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This is maybe a terrible thing to say I spend a lot of my holiday disliking my husband I feel more like a babysitter watching his drink intake. He'll leave us alone some nights in the room (me and my child) won't answer my calls till maybe 3-5 am and won't get up the next day because of a hangover... Am I exaggerating or is this normal would love to hear your thoughts as I feel like a nag 🙈

Sounds hideous op. I wouldn’t be holidaying with him again, just go with dc and leave him at home.

Sorry, it's not normal. He sounds like an alcoholic.

Nagging is a term invented by men who don’t want to be held accountable for their shit behaviour by women. You’re not nagging him. Leaving you alone with your child whilst he stays out until 5am is awful. No wonder you can’t stand him! Is he like this at home?

I had this for my kids entire childhood - I felt like an unpaid au pair. I didn’t drink so basically it felt like we were on 2 separate holidays a lot of the time. I’d get up early, whilst he’d be in bed stinking of alcohol and unable to function, we’d go to the beach or pool or excursions on our own. In a lot of ways it was actually easier but terribly lonely. They are adults now and I’m divorced! Looking back it was not right and you shouldn’t have to put up with that, holidays should be family time and a chance for sharing stuff together not just for him to be drinking all the time. Hope you can be brave OP and have that convo - I know I couldn’t sadly.

He goes on holiday with you and goes out on his own?? No. This isn’t normal

He is acting as if he is single with no children.
Useless.
No thought for your holiday or happiness.
Again, ducks in a row & escape.
MN is full of redundant men this weekend.

No not normal. And that is not nagging

That is 100% not normal and I would be divorcing him the second I’m home.

It's not every night maybe 2/10 but would probably be more if I'm not keeping an eye on what he has throughout the day it's got to the stage where I'm a ball of anxiety heading away... Thankyou ladies I think I just needed to hear your replies ❤️

Like he's great with the child pool etc when he's there a good part of holiday but just not what I want when we go away I just get nervous now

is he like this when not on holiday is probably more relevant?