My husband has always had quite a high sex drive, and i did too at the start of our relationship but it tailed off the longer we were together. Before we had our daughter 2 years ago we would do it maybe twice a week but its been 2 months now as my daughter went through a weird sleep regression and refuses to sleep in her own bed (it may also be a bit my fault as i gave up due to being sleep deprived and brought her in with me). It has been about 3 months and I am super stressed and depressed due to this. I work full time and have her once a week and at the weekend so the only time I really have to myself is her 1.5 hour naps 3 times a week. I have no motivation to do anything other than doom scroll on the couch.
We are on annual leave this week and my daughter is at nursery today so I suggested we take the chance and he said no, as it makes it harder knowing that it'll probably be another 2 months. He thinks we should be finding other time to fit it in but I just dont have any sex drive, and dont want to force myself just to keep him happy. He says it really affects him mentally and he thinks about it every day. He leaves the room when I change etc as he says he can't look at me with no clothes on as it makes it worse. He says he's just trying to explain how he feels but I feel like he's trying to 'punish' me a bit by saying no.
He has some long term health issues which leads to him being pretty short tempered most days which I feel is impacting how I feel towards him, I always feel like im walking on eggshells and I suppose this has affected how often I want to be intimate. I have explained this to him and he tries for a bit but it usually goes back to how it was before.
I dont know if im looking for advice or just solidarity, or reassurance that my relationship is actually worth saving?
Is it also weird that I actually did feel a bit relieved that he said no?