How to meet more men?

[WiseAdviceNeededPlease]

Any tips on how to meet more single men in their 40s - 50s naturally?
Have tried OLD but found it very time consuming and without much reward.
Also tried dinners for single people and running clubs, met a lot of nice women but very few men. It used to be so much easier 20 years ago, I'm wondering why it's so hard now and where all the divorced men are... I'm divorced myself and would like to meet a partner so need to expand my opportunities somehow. Most of my friends are single by choice and not very social so I won't meet anyone through them. Is it just a case of having missed the boat?
Thanks!

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Aren't they all off after 20 and 30 year olds? I always wonder if it is a hope over experience thing when someone 50+ perseveres with dating. There's always someone who says they met the love of their life blah, blah, blah, but you'll need to get through an awful lot of dross.

Most women I know just can't be bothered. Too much effort for such poor returns. I include myself in that BTW.

im In your target audience and gender and while I have met someone now - I would be perfectly fine alone after a long relationship
I know a few men in the same position who don’t really see the need for relationships any more ( no dig at women) , but they just don’t see the need for a partner anymore- lots are heavily involved with their kids or hobbies or clubs etc and can’t be bothered with women to be honest

Casual sex? At least two of the guys I met back then were up for longer relationships- tbh several of them kept popping back up, as it were. I was 49 and 50.

Go to the pub on football days, that's where met my third husband. Second one I met at work, first clubbing. Fourth And keeping Tinder 15years ago

What type of man/ men do you want to meet @WiseAdviceNeededPlease?

Dinners for single people is definitely not the right arena to meet many men (Personally I don’t know any who would go along to something like that).

You’ve not missed the boat. There’s plenty of us available men out there between those ages (and many of them also complain about OLD!).

I'd like to meet one who has a pretty full life already (like me) but who would make time for me when they can. Who is a kind, decent person, can communicate in a straightforward way and who is relatively fit. The men I've met my age so far seem to want to flirt endlessly but don't appear to be actually available... I see your point about the dinner thing, there were lots of great women there in case any men are wanting to meet more women, it was called "time left".
Thanks!

Thanks for the tips!

That's interesting, if I do OLD again I think I will include "fun casual dates" not just "long term relationship" to see who else is out there.
Thanks!

Yes I get that vibe from some of the men I've met I think some people just have a stronger driver to being with a partner, I kind of wish I didn't would make things simpler!

I think there are some men who want to date younger women sometimes because they haven't got around to having a family yet but probably the main obstacle is the majority of people in this age group are in a relationship / not available and it's hard to get access to the ones who are free in a natural way. I think middle aged women would still be popular with same age men if there was an easier alternative to OLD although I take your point there are some men out there that don't want an equal as such.

If I was single again I’d go to small music festivals with female friends, there always seem to be groups of nice looking middle aged men there.

That's a great idea thanks.