I’m in my mid-40s and very happily married to my husband of 11 years. He’s genuinely wonderful, kind, supportive, great dad, all that lovely stuff. However… recently I seem to have hit some sort of hormonal renaissance and have become ridiculously horny. The issue is that I’ve started fantasising about him going down on me. He did it once very early in our relationship and then immediately spent about 20 minutes in the bathroom gargling mouthwash like he’d accidentally licked a bin. Safe to say it slightly killed the mood. Our sex life is… fine? We probably have sex around once a month, which I assumed was pretty average for people our age. But if I’m honest, “vanilla” would be putting it generously. I’ve mentioned this to friends and quite a few have said their husbands only venture downtown as an occasional birthday or anniversary special, so now I’m wondering if my expectations are unrealistic. AIBU to think that, seeing as I’ve never once complained about giving him a BJ, it wouldn’t be outrageous to ask him to at least give it another go? Or do I just accept that some men are never going to be enthusiastic members of the oral appreciation society?