Fleeing dv

[Emmad010601]

I am looking to flee a domestic violence relationship, I have access to now accounts or money as my partner controls it all. I have the opportunity to leave on Friday when he goes to training for work. Does anyone have experience with tsb emergency flee fund? All ive done today is research and came across this. I don’t however have a banking account with them but if I was to set one up would they help me?

Dear Emma, I don’t know anything about this however have you called women’s aid? You can flee to a refuge on Friday and then sort out the money side after? Do you have children?

Call women's aid asap and as soon as it's safe to.

They will help you.

Bump I hope someone else can help.

The wait on the helpline for women’s aid can be about an hour from
what I’ve heard in here. Is it possible for you to call them tomorrow, they can help with an escape plan.

https://womensaid.org.uk

Do you have kids together?
Do you have transport and can you get yourself to a refuge or do you need help with that too?
Women’s Aid are definitely the first port of call.
Once you are in refuge and safe, they will help you with finances, housing and schools if you need.
Focus on getting out first and the rest can wait, there will be lots of help available afterwards.

Can you contact the police too?

I have called Woman’s aid they have no space in the refuge in my area at the moment; they are phoning me back today about a possible hotel room.

Yeah I’ve got 2 children one of which are disabled. Friday is my only opportunity to leave but I have no access to transport or funds to use public transport. It’s a lot as I’ve got my son’s medical equipment to take with me. Trying to find as much support as I can while not risking being caught by my partner.

I’m holding off on the police until I’m out. If he finds out I’ve called them my situation will be worse.

Do you have any family or friends you could stay with? If not women’s aid will help you, hopefully with a hotel room x

I am going to copy and paste a few high street shops that offer assistance in domestic violence so leave Friday and go to one of these.

I hope this helps you. The alternative is you go to the police on Friday and they arrest him and you can stay in the house. I know it’s easier said than done, please do leave on Friday it sounds like your only chance.

Is this the man you left last year?

I think that Women's Aid can help with train or coach tickets if you're fleeing to refuge - I presume that still applies if you were fleeing to a hotel they arranged?

Sorry you are experiencing domestic abuse @Emmad010601 . You can get free travel to support you fleeing. Hope this helps and you manage to get away.
https://womensaid.org.uk/what-we-do/supporting-our-members/travel-to-refuge/

why? even if it is, you know it can take a woman 6 or 7 goes to leave properly and her situation will have worsened.

I was in this situation a few years ago and also drew help from Mumsnet which was invaluable. The police and refuge.org.uk are also very very helpful. You know to be careful and you know we're all here. Take care xx

@HelpMePlease74
I know. Which is why involving the police now might be the safest thing for her to do.

Good for you, OP. You've probably already seen this if you've been in contact with Women's Aid but here is a note of things to have in mind in the run up to escaping: https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/i-want-to-leave-my-relationship-safely/

Do you have any people you can speak to in real life who can come and help you on Friday including, for example, by helping with transport and storage?