Messages on boyfriends phone

[Mondui]

Need some advice please . I never checked my partners phone but I don’t know today I had a feeling and I did .
been together 15 years and 2 kids . Sex life not great , my mum has just died after a long illness so I have been travelling a lot to where she is .

I found messages between him and an Ai chat asking for advice .

Basically he has been exchanging chats and a couple of messages with a younger woman in the village .

small village but I don’t know the name of the person

he keeps his phone with him all the time so hard to go through it quickly

He seems to have exchanged a few texts with this woman then asked her out for a drink and she didn’t reply yet

he was asking for advice and is going to wait till Wednesday to text her again
I took pics of the conversation but didn’t have time to go through his text messages or to check his contacts .

I want to build evidence before I confront him

it’s a tiny village everyone knows everyone so if people see him with a women it will get back to me

been cheated in my previous relationship so kind of stings .

i am grieving for my mum and could do without this what would you do ?

What a piece of shit doing this whilst your mother has just died!!!! Jesus! So sorry OP but honestly leave the bastard.

Slightly confused about who he sent messages to.. AI and this ither woman? If so, what did the messages to the AI say?

Either way it doesnt sound good OP, im sorry.
Have there been any other signs?

Why waste time gathering evidence
just get rid
you deserve better and I’m very sorry for your loss x

So he’s been sending messages and chatting to another women. But it seems like he asked her for a drink but she didn’t respond and he seems to be asking this Diamon Ai chat to give him advice .

I need to check his contacts and the messages but I ran out of time. Can hardly get his phone alone without him . seems like a lot of this has been going on over the last few months while I’ve been taking care of two kids and travelling backwards and forwards while my mum was on end of life care

if I could go now I would I am shocked to be honest but I just kind of had a feeling today to look
I don’t check his phone I trust him

You do not need evidence (it’s not a court of law) which can also be plausibly denied by him. You need to be rid of him and I would be telling him to go to his mother’s house.

It’s tricky we have small children neither of us are in financial stability . I don’t really have anywhere to go and he only has his sister .

seems like this woman is much younger than him to he makes reference to age what a kick in the teeth

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum 💐 at a time when his primary concern should be taking care of you and supporting you in your grief, he's been making overtures to another woman. I don't think there's any coming back from that personally. There's no reason for you to leave, he's the one in the wrong. I would confront him and ask him to leave. Obviously you can't force him but you can certainly live separately in the same house if he refuses to go, until such time as you can sell the house and go your separate ways.

I am going to ask my friend to take the kids tomorrow evening and confront him

i bring in the more money so financially in the long term me and the kids would be ok I just feel sad for them

Sickening he’s done this when I’ve been lost in grief and still am

He doesn't deserve you 😔 I'll never understand why a man would risk his children's security for a leg over. What a faithless, irresponsible, callous bastard 😠 I'm glad you've got a good friend to lean on 💐

Makes me wonder if this is the first time

thank you - my heart only breaks for the upheaval it will have on my children

Also from the messages this woman seems to know about his kids and me doesn’t seem put off

I'm so sorry about your Mum OP.

That he was been doing this while you were supporting her at the end of her life and looking after his children is just absolutely disgusting.

Hes changed his pin on his phone which is suss he must know i know something . Planning on saying something when kids in bed

Yes, this is very dodgy he changed his pin.

If he's suspicious he might have wiped the evidence but you have evidence.

Good luck OP.