Before I booked my child's christening, I asked my closest friends which Saturday of a particular month would be best for everyone. My best friend said the 30th as it's around when she gets her wages so it would be easier for her. But I asked her if she's sure this will be okay as I know her daughter's 16th birthday is the day after. She said it's fine as they're not planning anything for that weekend and they'll be doing something the weekend after instead. Bare in mind she was the first friend to say this weekend would be best so there was no peer pressure to choose this weekend. The rest of my friends and family said this weekend is good too, so I've booked and paid for everything for the 30th.
2 days later, I made a group chat with everyone invited in it, and was talking about numbers for the set meals at the party afterwards, and my best friend, to my surprise, messaged the group and stated so everyone can read that she isn't going to make it because I failed to ask her which weekend was best and she said she's throwing her daughter a birthday party that day instead. So now a couple of our mutual friends are being weird with me and think I'm out of order for trying to ruin her daughter's birthday weekend. My best friend was all on board with the 30th, even offering to help set things up for the party and excitedly speaking about it every day until the sudden message.
I seem to believe she's changed her mind about when to have her daughter's party and because all of our friends have agreed and planned to attend my christening first, she's trying to make something up to make me look bad so they don't come to my party, but to hers instead, as conveniently, it's at the same date and time...
We've been friends for 30 years, never had a fall out or disagreement so I'm bewildered why this has happened and she's lying about it all. Unfortunately (I've learnt my lesson now), these conversations took place in real life and over the phone, so there's no proof of what she said to me. I just think it's a shitty way of trying to stop people coming to my party, because she's changed her mind. I've been getting bad vibes from her for weeks now though, even before this but I'm an anxious person so I just ignored the gut feeling. She seems to have changed since she's having financial issues and I'm not sure if jealousy is a factor as she started making digs at things I was buying for the christening, as if I was doing too much.
Whata your opinion on why this is happening? I can't fathom it but I don't know if I'm overreacting. She's currently ignoring me, so I've stopped communicating right now and I am PISSED.