Blocked after 3 years. Heartbroken, anyone help?

[Mum2two99]

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Im feeling so lost that my relationship has ended with no closure just blocked and ignored I guess.

Yes. It happened to me after 9 years together. He went to work away (building trade) and that was the last time I saw or spoke to him for 3 years. He had moved in with another woman who he had met online. It hit me like a ton of bricks. My advice would be forget about closure- I am sorry I think it’s complete twaddle.
Tell your family and friends what has happened, you need there support.
Absolutely contact your GP, I personally needed medication and counselling. They can help you.
Keep in a routine and busy, avoid getting drunk because it doesn’t help.
Don’t give the turd the satisfaction of contacting him and prepare for him to resurface in the future, mine did I took great satisfaction in telling him to get stuffed.
There was a fantastic thread on here before about a similar situation, I think the OP was running in the rain? See if you can find it, it’s inspirational.
All the best x

@Mimimayhem18 Thanks for your reply. I went through heartache 5 years ago with my kids dad, going to the gp did help but im hoping this time I can be stronger!

But it's so heartbreaking still, for the past 2 years we have been renovating a house and stress had gotten to him. He lives an hour away so ive lived at his weekends mainly when my kids have been at their dads. He's been my rock and support so im just completely lost atm. I dont think we will ever speak again, this time last week I thought we were completely in love 💔

I'm so sorry @Mum2two99 (and @Mimimayhem18 ) that is absolutely awful. Such a cruel and cowardly way to end a relationship. A man who could do this is not someone worth being with, I know this is nigh on impossible to see when you are in the thick of it but you have had a lucky escape really.

@aquitodavia thanks yeah I have to think like that. I am so angry at him for doing this, he had been snappy lately because off work stress so I did notice him being off with me. But ive tried to understand hes under a lot of pressure atm. Somehow our conversation on Thursday turned into a petty argument and he just ended it like that! He was angry and said he felt like I didnt care about him anymore and to not contact him, then blocked me. We've been planning to move in together and my kids love him so im shocked he's acted this way!

Ahhh the classic cause an argument, what a coward. Sorry this has happened to you x

Let me guess, you have you been working on (paying for?) renovations on his property and now the reality of living together/ with kids is kicking in he's bottled it, engineered an arguement and manged to shift the blame to you 'not caring'? You've dodged a bullet but I'd be so angry!!!

@LassiKopiano24 definately a coward! There was a time 2 years ago he did something similar but just ignoring me all week then called friday. This is the first weekend I've actually not spoken or seen him and im pretty sure I'll never see him again. Im angry that I loved him so much because he must know that im heartbroken!

It hurts now but thank your lucky stars this has happened before you upnstick and moved in with him. Do not contact him. Block him too.

What an absolute twat. Imagine if he'd done that down the line when living with your kids. Best he's shown his true colours now really, I am so sorry for your heartbreak though.

@AltitudeCheck wish I could say he's a waste like my kids dad was, but no he works 2 jobs and has paid 1000's to extend the bathroom to fit a bath in for the kids. He had every intention apparently of living with us and seemed happy makes no sense. Apart from being behind on the house so our relationship stopped being dates and dog walks and more ripping up flooring and decorating. I honestly thought he was just stressed but seems something changed for him. So angry ill never know!

It turns out that he is not the person he pretended to be.
It’s hard not to feel humiliated in these circumstances because you have fallen for a lie but remember to be hard on him, and not on yourself. He’s a liar, a charlatan and a coward. It turns out he’s a lousy excuse for a man and you’re better off without him. Get mad not sad.

Your right, I know ive been completely fooled. I think he got scared and just ran away, he took my son out the day before and he seemed so happy about it. Maybe deep down it was too much pressure for him.