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Crush or just super friendly?

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Silverstarz · 09/05/2026 20:18

For context I am 44 female.
So last week I finally ended things in my 23 years relationship without going into detail it was awful, betrayal, alcoholic, infidilty, lying alcohol etc......
I emotionally stepped away a while ago.
However he's obvs still living here for time being and I am moving into another room I have.
Anyway for the past few months I've developed a kinda crush on this man who works local to where I live. I spoke to him briefly last year and he was very nice and chatty and witty. He carried the conversation and asked my name etc. I failed to get his as at the time I wasn't into it.
So I keep seeing this bloke all the time driving about the narrow lane Whilst am running It's kinda a thing now where I've noticed him and started smiling at each other, then it's increased to eye contact like held eyes intense then waves and smiles and now when he passes .e he's already waving and smiling away 🫣 I dunno if he's just super friendly but I know he has serious resting bitch face and alot think he's arrogant 😭🫣 but he wasn't like that at all with me.
So am trying to determine if he fancies me or am just deluded 🤣😭
The other evening he was pulling out and I came like face to face with him as I had to wait opposite him in a pull in whilst a car came past. He looked did a smile and wave I looked away then looked back and before he pulled off he smiled and waved again. It felt so charged 🫣😭
So is he super nice or does he fancy me
And how the hell do I speak to him if he's always driving past 🤣
It's a fairly narrow lane so no one does more than 20mph
Ideas?
I feel totally new again after 23 years of not being seen I've lost a stone and look and feel great. Help 😭🤣🤣🤣

OP posts:
Silverstarz · 09/05/2026 20:46

Anyone 😭🤣🫣

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Arlanymor · 09/05/2026 20:49

If your last relationship only ended last week I think it’s probably too early to even be entertaining the idea of getting close to anyone else. It’s not fair on you and it definitely isn’t fair on them. You need to grieve, take stock and breathe.

Silverstarz · 09/05/2026 20:55

Arlanymor · 09/05/2026 20:49

If your last relationship only ended last week I think it’s probably too early to even be entertaining the idea of getting close to anyone else. It’s not fair on you and it definitely isn’t fair on them. You need to grieve, take stock and breathe.

I was emotionally done with the relationship a long time ago, as was he
I just want to enjoy this spark and see where it leads. After being emotionally starved for the best part of 20 years it's nice to enjoy the possibility of someone else liking me ❤️

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UpDownAllAround1 · 09/05/2026 21:01

why don’t you move out ?

Silverstarz · 09/05/2026 21:02

UpDownAllAround1 · 09/05/2026 21:01

why don’t you move out ?

He's in the process of finding somewhere to live. He's away at the moment.

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Silverstarz · 09/05/2026 21:47

Bump

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alpenguin · 09/05/2026 21:50

the only person who can tell if he likes you is him, certainly not anyone here. He may just enjoy your attention. Do you know anything about him? Does he have a partner/girlfriend/boyfriend?

I think you’re maybe reading too much into the interaction with your new found freedom.

Itsanewlife · 09/05/2026 22:00

Only he knows and can tell you. However, I will say from experience that when you are in a vulnerable state (as you are) you will start seeing things that aren't there or things you want to see because it offers you validation of a sort that you are clearly in need of. In my case those crushes wouldn't have led anywhere good, and I'm glad I didn't pursue them. Give yourself time to move on and stabilize.

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