Does anyone has a partner who is going through anxiety? And pain ( but possibly somatic pain) ?

[Kardelen]

How are you feeling? I just want to know if anyone else is going through what I am
going through. My husband has been suffering with this for the past 2 years, and doesn’t seem to be getting better.

any advice/tips are appreciated.

he is also refusing any meds, apart from herbal as he said he previously tried and didn’t work well for him.

He needs given notice to either sort himself out and take proper meds and try and sort out what’s going on or if it’s psychological then he also goes to get help
or
he leaves and lets you get on with your life. Honestly after a lifetime of this destroying me and MY mental and physical health I wouldn’t put up with it any longer than you have! He’s selfish and self centred

I bet he doesn't work and you are over working to cope with his lazyitus?
Pain is usually in someones head becasuse they can't cope with the realities of life, like a job and family.
You however, can control how your life will be. Divorcing him will mean that he picks up pretty quicky!
I would suggest divorce on this occasion.
Go and find someone who won't take the piss out of you.

We also have two young children and I primarily care for them. I don’t actually know how to express my feelings, I have a lot on my plate, and a lot on my mind.
he had a difficult childhood, and unfortunately I think something triggered it and it’s all had a toll on his mental health.
( he is pretty much going through what his dad went through).

I still do want to support him, but I am burning out. I need to be strong for my children I know. I wish there was some magic cure. It’s hard, as when you speak he gets defensive and is very sensitive.
I am also worried incase my children turn to be like him ( as seems like he is like his late dad in this state, thinking it may even be genetic). I feel so guilty, guilty for my children that i have chosen the wrong father and they won’t ever receive the right upbringing they deserve. The first stages of their life, he was one of the most caring dads. Just want it to go back to how it was. But I am absolutely lost. I don’t know when enough is enough, I want them to grow with a father. But I don’t know if it will ever get better.